The Secret to Danish Happiness? I want that Pyt button!

When a word continues to appear on my radar, I need to pay attention.

I first heard about Pyt last year. The Danish Library Association chose Pyt as the nation’s favourite word. I was immediately intrigued. The Danes are known as the happiest people on Earth. I want to know their secret.

This is the same culture that coined a favourite word, hygge, a few years ago. I easily adopted hygge as a way to relax and destress. Reading, cocooning, snuggling, a feeling of contentment. A favourite way to spend my time.

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Now the word Pyt has surfaced. I have read a variety of translations describing the meaning of this word, how to pronounce it and when to use it. I understand how a cultural word may not be easily translated into the English language. I speak German, and we have words that do not directly translate into an English word.

Pyt (‘pid’) is used for minor frustrations and annoyances. Pyt is used to express ‘don’t worry’, ‘accept it’, ‘move on.’ weblink link

When I read further about Pyt, I found out that the Danes had even created a button with Pyt on it. When you press this button you will hear the Pyt word. A reminder to pause, gain perspective and let it go.

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I could see how a physical symbol would help the expression Pyt seep into a culture’s language and values. I had a Happy Face button. The Happy Face emoji is still a part of popular communication. 😊

The underlying message that continues to surface for me is “acceptance.” This concept is emphasized in one of my favourite books, “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. In 2017 my one word intention was “acceptance.”

I still need to be reminded to accept the things I cannot change.

I am usually a glass-half-full kind of person. Yet, we all have stresses in our life, even the Danes. Many of us use strategies to gain perspective, like walking in nature, meditation and creative outlets. The Danes also use words to help prompt a more peaceful, happy life.

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We can learn from other cultures. We can share secrets. We, too, can be the happiest people on Earth.

postscript: amazon sells Pyt decals and wall stickers. I may have to create my own Pyt button, even if it is in my mind.

Contemplating a Tattoo in New Zealand

Tattoos are popular.

I have nothing against them.

Just not for me. Not right now.

We were watching the surf on the Coromandel Peninsula, on the North Island of New Zealand. The first thing that came to mind was my daughter’s tattoo. It’s funny how an image can evoke a memory.

The waves on this beach reminded me of the tattoo of a heartbeat.

Having raised teenage daughters, the concept of tattoos was brought up at a young age. I didn’t bring up the topic. They did.

The buzzword phrases were: pick my battles and allow them to make their own decisions.

I chose my words carefully.

My advice was “think about it for one year before you do anything. This is a permanent decision.”

Their first tattoos were initials of each other’s name.

Artwork was added.

About ten years later, my daughter was excited to show me her new tattoo. This tattoo was the image of the actual heartbeat of her little girl. This tattoo meant a lot to her. It was symbolic of the precious gift of her child.

My daughter now has two heartbeat tattoos.

The first thing I saw on that beach in New Zealand was an image of a heartbeat. The waves had created distinct peaks on the shoreline. Possibly the ocean’s heartbeat.

For me, it brought up the memory of my daughter’s tattoos. Symbolic of the priceless heartbeats of life.

I may get a charm, or a pendant as a special, meaningful keepsake.

I don’t think I will get a tattoo.

Not right now.

I may change my mind.

What does the word “Magical” mean to you?

The rain stops. The sky clears. The air is crisp and cold.

Just for one night, time stands still.

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Tens of thousands of twinkling lights.

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An illusion. A mystery.

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A feeling of enchantment.

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Children’s smiles.

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Removed from everyday life.

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Thankful for this moment in time.

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For we are all children, in awe of the Magic.

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I wish everyone a year filled with Magical Moments in 2019!

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What day will you remember from 2018?

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Do you remember the day your child was born?…. the birth of your grandchild?….your wedding day?.…the day a loved one dies?

The end of December is often a time of reflection, recalling many of the events from the last 12 months. 2018 was filled with many positive moments, some noteworthy and some long forgotten. I have to refer back to my photos and to my calendar to jog my memory.

The one day in 2018 I will never forget is the day my Grandson was born.

I remember the adrenaline cursing through my body when we received the phone call to rush to the hospital. I remember my daughter’s labour and how I wanted to alleviate her pain, yet how helpless I felt. I remember the love on my daughter’s face when she held her son for the first time.

I remember the joy I felt and how I was overcome with emotion hearing his newborn cries, seeing him for the first time, the miracle of life.

These memories are forever etched in my mind. I vividly remember the details of that day.

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Yet, I cannot immediately recall what I did a week ago.

There has been a great deal of research done investigating the relationship between emotion and memory. We create longer lasting memories in emotionally charged situations.

This is a complex subject with many individual variations.

Events surrounded by positive emotions are usually remembered better than events surrounded by negative emotions.

Different emotional states may impair memory. Strong emotional states can result in persistent vivid memories of stressful events (PTSD).

Gender differences influence memory. Men and women may remember events differently.

Our age affects the details we remember. As we get older, unpleasant memories fade faster and pleasant memories get stronger. learn more here and here

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I can look back on my own life and clearly recall details from emotional events that occurred many decades ago. I can also remember how I felt on that day and tears (of joy or sadness) can easily resurface.

the birth of my own children……. the timing of events on that day, the colour of the socks I was wearing, even what I had to eat that day…….my feelings of relief, euphoria and love

my Father’s funeral…….how my body would not stop shaking and my daughter held my hand to steady it, memories and photos shared that day, the blue sky…….an overwhelming feeling of sadness

my daughter and son-in-law’s wedding…….the beaming, genuine smiles on their faces, the look of love in their eyes, the ocean breeze…….my tears of love and joy

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I think most of us have vivid recollections of events when we were in a heightened state of emotion. We can recall details from that day and how we felt.

The end of the year is often a time we reminisce on the special moments of the last 12 months. 2018 was a good year for us, creating many memories with our loved ones. What events took place? What did I do? Where did I travel? What do I remember?

I do know that I will never forget the day in April that my Grandson was born, an emotional day filled with intense feelings of gratitude, joy, and love.

What day will you remember from 2018?

What the Bleep do I know?!

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Do you ever arrive at your destination in the blink of an eye, unsure how you managed to get from here to there? Do you look up and notice most of the leaves have fallen from the trees and wonder what happened to Autumn? Do you go about your weekly routine, deep in thought, oblivious to your surroundings?

This past week I was watering my Christmas Cactus plant and I noticed that a flower had already bloomed and dropped to the table. Darn! I had missed it!

My very sparse plant has only a few buds that bloom once a year. I was now determined to check on these buds. I wanted to enjoy these rare beautiful flowers.

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As I would stop by my plant each day, I started to wonder, why is my Christmas Cactus still alive at all? I inherited this plant when it had only a few leaves, most of them brown. That was over 40 years ago.

All I do is give it water.

I can’t help but think about the documentary “What the Bleep do we know?!”

This movie discussed the concept of thoughts and energy specifically related to water. Although I watched this movie many years ago, I still remember how it gave me goosebumps and made me think differently.

One scene in the movie described an experiment questioning whether the molecular structure of water can change depending on mental stimulation. Positive thoughts versus negative intentions were directed at the water. Did the cellular structure of the water change? Yes, according to these scientists.

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The experiments in this movie have been criticized and considered pseudoscience containing only grains of truth. I still think it is a good movie. Sometimes questions are more important than answers. It opened my eyes to a unique perspective.

There are likely many reasons my plant is still alive today. Of course, water is one of them.

Do my thoughts and intentions affect the water and ultimately my plants? Do my thoughts affect the water within my body. What are the resulting implications for our planet? “Makes you wonder, doesn’t it?”

I think many of us can agree that positive and negative energy does affect all of us.

What the bleep do I know?!

I do know that I want to navigate through my life more keenly aware of my surroundings, paying attention. I want to enjoy the Autumn leaves before they fall on the ground. I want to watch the flowers bloom on my Christmas Cactus plant.

I want to be fully present for the beautiful fleeting moments in my life.

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40th Anniversary……You know he’s a keeper when……

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Month 1

I call him at work to tell him I “think” the tv is on fire……..he runs the 4 minute mile and he is home before I can even hang up the phone…………He totally cares………about me?………or the tv?………likely both

Month 2

Things in common………some totally opposite………..

Toilet seat down…………most of the time………………..

Family values, kindness, respect, thoughtful, fun……

Month 20

Me in pj’s the past 24 hours……..the darn flu………..he gets down on one knee to propose……..excited to share the ring he has designed for me………I think I said “yes”………too delirious from the flu to remember………

Month 30

We make it official and get married.

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40 Years Later

It’s how he still looks at me with love and kindness when I enter the room

It’s how he accepts my flaws and loves me anyways

It’s how he makes me laugh

It’s how he gently holds and plays with the grandchildren

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It’s how he drops everything to be present and help when his family needs him, always making loved ones a priority

Things in common………some totally opposite………..

Toilet seat down…………most of the time………………..

Family values, kindness, respect, thoughtful, fun……

He is still the same man I married……….. except that we have grown 40 years older together.

We are a team. We have learned when to step in or step back. We support each other.

Many pivotal events have occurred over the last 40 years. And yet, it’s the numerous little things that create the moments in our day, and ultimately create our life.

I am very aware of the passing of time and the fragility of life. Our days ahead will be less than the days we have left behind. The gift of time is very precious.

I am grateful for the 40 years we have had together. I will cherish the moments we have ahead of us.

Yes……. he is a keeper!

(Happy 40th Anniversary Sweetheart…….my Partner, my Friend…….I love you with all of my heart)

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Sliding Doors – Do you ever wonder how your life would be different now if you had taken the Other Door?

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I think many of us have reflected on the “sliding door” moments in our life, the what ifs?….. what might have been?…… how would my life be different now? I know I have.

It may be a split decision to take a different route home or leave 10 minutes later from work, avoiding an accident.

It may be where we decide to live, our career choice, who we choose to marry. One decision can change the course of our life forever.

I am also very aware of the butterfly effect, the ripple effect, caused by that one decision……..the family I now have and the friends I have made along the way.

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A pivotal “sliding door” moment for me was when I met a very friendly girl in a cafeteria at school. We had 2 weeks left until the end of the Spring semester and we were discussing our Summer plans.

She was heading back to her hometown, Whitehorse and I was going to Yellowknife to work for the Summer. She told me about the beautiful Yukon Territory and the jobs that were available there. I reviewed the student job search bulletin board and 2 weeks later I was on an airplane heading to Whitehorse instead of Yellowknife.

My Summer job actually turned into 4 years of living in the beautiful Yukon. This is where I met my husband ……and the rest is history.

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Was I destined to meet my husband, possibly at a different time and place, or through different circumstances?

We found out that our paths may have crossed in a prior year. My family and I used to camp at a lake in the Interior of BC when I was a young girl. At that time, my husband lived on this lake immediately across from our campground.

I have heard many stories like this. One couple I know spent the first few days of their lives in the same hospital nursery. They were actually born on the same day. They met years later and married. Other friends found out they had attended the same basketball game years before they actually met. A random event?……. fate?…….. serendipity?

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There is also evidence of Parallel universes in modern science. Something about electrons spinning in different directions at the same time…..quantum physics. The theory is that there is a parallel you inhabiting a world that is no less real than ours, yet can accommodate different outcomes. Is there a copy of me existing right now in an alternate reality, a separate parallel universe? This concept is far too in depth and complicated for my brain……..although intriguing.

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I do not know whether our lives unfold by chance or whether we are on a preordained path. Do we have certain people in our lives for a reason? Are there lessons we are required to learn on this route?

I have reflected on the “sliding door” moments in my life, especially the summer I moved to the Yukon. I will never know how my life would have turned out differently, if I had taken that airplane to Yellowknife instead of Whitehorse.

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My gut on this one? I am grateful I went through that one door over 40 years ago, leading me to this rewarding life.

I cannot imagine my life without my husband, my daughters, my family, my friends. I was destined to be right here, right now.

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