Can You Still Have Romance After 42 Years of Marriage?

The Mortified Looks On Their Faces 

Our daughters:  “Mom and Dad, romantic?”  

            “Please…do not embarrass us!”

How Did We Get Here?

Was I destined to cross paths with the right partner at the right time in my life?  Sliding doors/do you ever wonder how your life would be different now if you had taken the other door

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Is it pure luck to meet and marry my best friend?  40th anniversary/you know he is a keeper when

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How did losing my wedding ring help me reflect on my marriage? I was tempted to lie to my husband

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One Definition of Romance

Romance is the feeling we chase in relationships. … It’s a powerful force that makes you feel connected to someone in a deeper way. It’s the gestures, both big and small, that make you feel especially wooed and especially cherished by your partner. Romance is what takes your relationship past friendship.  healthy relationships/what is romance

Friends Share Their Thoughts on a Happy Relationship and Romance

  • Separate interests
  • Similar interests
  • Similar values
  • Communication
  • Chemistry
  • Tolerance
  • Laughing often

The number one response in 2020 for a happy relationship is 

                         The Man Cave!

    

Moments That Make a Marriage

A Peak Into Our Private Life

  • The first Summer we met – A birthday cake for me and inviting a few people over when I was all by myself in a new community.
  • Running the four minute mile home, after receiving my message, “I think the T.V. is on fire!” 
  • Not flushing the toilet when I am in the shower.
  • Kissing me after I have been car sick (albeit a quick kiss on the cheek)
  • The dishes are done before I wake up in the morning.  No job is beneath you.
  • Perfecting braids, pigtails and ponytails.
  • Torrential rains and hours putting up tarps.
  • Dropping everything to meet me at the hospital when one of the children is sick.
  • Countless hours helping with ill, fragile and compromised parents.

        A marriage may not always be 50/50.  Sometimes it is contributing 100%.  Especially when your partner needs you the most. 

As For My Question On Romance After 42 Years of Marriage? 

The ingredients for a long term, happy marriage are as varied and unique as the couples in the relationship. 

Romance is made up of moments, the gestures, both big and small.

Life is always precious. 

The gift of time, priceless.

Especially now.

I am grateful for the 42 years we have had together.  I will cherish the moments ahead of us.

             Happy Anniversary, Dear.

November 24, 1978

What ingredients would you add for a happy relationship and romance?

Behind The Scenery

A Romantic Getaway

Carving out precious alone time together has always been a priority for us.

A challenge when raising children and work schedules.

Even now, obligations and commitments fill our days.  

Our Anniversary Retreat at Tigh-Na-Mara Seaside Spa Resort

A rustic cottage in the woods.

Rejuvenating, nurturing and relaxing mineral pools at the Grotto Spa. 

Exquisite, Endless Tapas dining at the Treetop Tapas & Grill.  One of the best meals we have ever had!  

All in the comfort of dining in our robes. 

Tigh-Na-Mara Seaside Spa Resort gave me permission to share the above photos from their photo gallery. We were not allowed to take photos inside the Grotto Spa and Treetop Tapas & Grill.

Tigh-Na-Mara Seaside Spa Resort and The Treetop Tapas & Grill at the Grotto Spa

A Bonus Gift On Our Getaway

The kind, warm welcome, visiting our friends, Donna (Retirement Reflections Blog) and her husband, Richard.

 A Perfect 42nd Anniversary! 

148 thoughts on “Can You Still Have Romance After 42 Years of Marriage?

  1. A dear friend of mine has found new romance at age 74. She is like a teenager all giddy and silly when she talks about him. Three years ago she was the caretaker of her severely ill husband 24/7 and she did it well. Watching her I see the different stages of love, all equally important. She had 30 good years with her husband before he passed. I am very happy that she has found a romantic companion at this stage. Happy anniversary to you and your hubby. Finding the right person is very special.

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    1. It is heartwarming to hear about your friend, Kate. I sometimes lose perspective on the different stages of love with the busyness of life. I am grateful to be here right now. As you know the years become a blur and go by fast. Thank you for the anniversary wishes.

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    1. Thank you for the Happy Anniversary wishes, Nancy. The spark and sparkle seems to include a great deal of laughter these days. Likely a good thing when we are looking for our glasses, groaning when we rise from a chair and all of that other fun stuff.🙂

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  2. All so wonderful! (And, wow, those spa pics are great. Wild they don’t let you take pics inside.) Probably my favorite part of this post was the dishes being done before you wake up. “Are you reading this over my shoulder, hon?” 😉
    Happy Anniversary!!!

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    1. I was tempted to sneak my phone in, Betsy, and they are firm about locking up our phones and no photos. I respect this since we are hanging out in our robes and it is a spa setting. I emailed Tigh Na Mara’s marketing manager and he was super kind with his response about using their gallery photos. Ha, ha about the dishes being done. 😊 My husband has a burst of energy in the evening when I am totally fading. Thank you for the Anniversary wishes.❤️

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  3. Congratulations Erica! Forty-two years is something to celebrate, and what a perfect place to do just that. I also have a husband who unloads the dishwasher and makes coffee before I get out of bed. I try to remember to say ‘thank you,’ because it is such a simple kindness that makes a big impact on my day. I think our guys need reassurance that we still need and appreciate them, especially as we age. How nice that you made this a double treat with your visit with Donna.

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    1. You are right, Suzanne, how it is the simple acts of kindness that make a huge impact in the day. I think you and your husband were also planning a short getaway recently. I am glad we visited Tigh Na Mara at the beginning of this month since the restrictions are changing again this week. We saw almost no one when we were there since we stayed in a cottage. The spa part was exceptionally clean, only three couples far apart in the Grotto pools and very distanced in the Tree top grill area. And, yes, the icing was our visit with Donna and Richard. ❤️

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    1. I feel very grateful to be here right now. Every day is special, yet, I feel the sands in the hourglass slipping through quickly these days. Thank you for reading Liz, and sharing your kind, thoughtful comment.❤️

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  4. Happy anniversary and congratulations, Erica/ Erika! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on romance and a happy relationship and how you celebrated your anniversary. It’s lovely to see the photo of you, your hubby, Donna and Richard.

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    1. Thank you, Natalie. I wasn’t sure where I was going with this post, yet I wanted to honour another year/Anniversary. Of course, grateful to even be here. And, yes, it was a bonus treat to see Donna and Richard.🙂

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  5. As a writer of romance, you know I loved this post, Erica. Your post is brilliantly written and reflects the true meaning of romance. “The number one response in 2020 for a happy relationship is The Man Cave!” this made me smile. Wishing and your husband many more years of happiness! xo

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    1. I was not sure where I was going with this post, Jill, since so much has been said before. Yet, I always feel I am an example to my daughters and I have friends in many different age groups. Life is still very good and often even better as we grow older. We often zero in to what is truly important in life and in our relationships.

      Funny you mention the Man Cave. We just found out about a leak coming from “somewhere?” In our family room. Therefore, I am sharing The Man Cave for the next little while. I spoke too soon.😅

      Thank you for your supportive, kind comments, always, Jill. You make a difference in people’s lives in more ways than you may realize. Thank you for being you!❤️

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  6. Congratulations Erica and wishing you both many many years of romance and togetherness. I love how you have created this heart-warming post about love that is everlasting. I agree with you, it is the moments that add up to such relationships that we nurture all our life. I have many such moments in my mind that strengthened my bond with my husband. Stay blessed dear friend.

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    1. I love how you use the word “everlasting,” Balroop. Hopefully, love transcends ‘time’ since I often do feel time is running out. I know you understand first hand since you have written lovingly about your husband, your partner/friend. I agree how bonds strengthen over time if we are lucky. Thank you for your thoughtful, supportive comment.❤️

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    1. Thank you for the congratulations, Janet. I think you and your husband have been together a long time, too. You know first hand about all the little moments and how fast time goes by. Thank you for your kind words. Take care and have a great week.

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  7. First Erica, the answer is ABSOLUTELY!!! 🙂 And you proved it with every word you wrote. What a fun, touching, and inspirational post. I particularly liked “Not flushing the toilet when I am in the shower.” He’s definitely a keeper. Congrats on 42 years and Happy Anniversary! ~Terri

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    1. Hi Terri and James, I think you have been together for as long as us. I wasn’t sure where I was going with this post. So much has already been said before. The not flushing the toilet while in the shower is an issue in our house. In some houses it does not make a difference. It is always about the little things. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful comment.❤️

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    1. Your term “sparkle” made me smile, Jo. Sometimes our ‘sparkle’ dims and dulls. 🙂 “Looking happy” helps when we are holding a glass of wine. Thank you for your kind congratulations. I hope all is well in your part of the planet. Take care.💕

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    1. I love your word “morph,” Janis. Definitely a lot of morphing around here. We met when I was 19, a mere fledgling. You are right about ‘it is even better.’ I spoke too soon about my husband’s man cave. It look like we are sharing the cave for now. 😅 Found out about a big water issue in our family room yesterday morning. Thankful for a company coming over with drying equipment and they will be investigating the source. I look forward to the extra togetherness in our relationship for the next while. 😅 Congratulations to the both of you, too. 30 years, wow!

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  8. 42 years is something to really celebrate. A lifetime of memories. I would add two ingredients for a relationship that others have touched on: teamwork and commitment. If one has similar values and good communication, you can work through the rollercoaster of life’s challenges. Happy Anniversary.

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    1. Thank you for the good wishes, Amanda. I agree with ‘teamwork’ and ‘commitment.’ It is impossible to maintain a good relationship if only one person is invested. And, yes, rollercoaster of life’s challenges. Thank you for sharing your wise words.

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    1. I had to look up “Ruby Anniversary,” Anabel. 40 years! A milestone. I don’t recall discussing Ruby Anniversary around our house. I may request a do over. 🙂You and your husband always have big smiles and you seem to have a great deal in common and lots of fun. Like you say, right now being together is fine. I try not to think too far ahead and all of the what ifs.

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  9. What a beautiful blog and testament to love and soul mates. Yes, one can still have romance after 42 years. My hubby of 40 years and I just had a date yesterday and another one today. He’s really a simple guy who does not like to go out of his comfort zone, but once in awhile he’s willing to go to a different restaurant or walk a different route. He is really a creature of habit, but I know we were destined to meet and yes, the romance has ticked upward and downwards over the years, but we both care deeply and are each other’s best friends. I see that in you and hubby, and I adored all the historical photos you shared and the last photo of you, hubby and Donna and Richard adorned with luminous streaks of life giving sunlight brought a big smile to my face and heart!

    Love
    Susan Grace

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    1. It is interesting how you still call it a “date,” Susan. We do this also. Even though we live in the same house we have to make a point of spending time just with each other and hopefully not discussing household issues. Of course, our children have been part of our conversations on every date since they were born. Also interesting how you say, were destined to meet. I also get it on the upwards and downwards and just riding it out, sometimes.

      The luminous streaks in the last photo with Donna and Richard was a pleasant surprise. I have been making a point to use a little tripod I carry everywhere in my knapsack. Therefore, able to get everyone in the photo. Susan, your good wishes and comment also brought a smile to my face and heart. Hope you and loved ones are well.❤️

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  10. Hi Erica – I think the secret to a long marriage is to have those romantic moments, but not to expect them 24/7. A lot of marriage is compromising, supporting, sharing, understanding, and just being each other’s “person” – then you throw in a little romance here and there – and it’s pretty darn perfect. Congrats again on 42 years – we’re almost at 38 yrs – and I’m looking forward to many more with the lovely (and now and then not-quite-so-lovely) man I hooked up with when I was 20 and married at 21 – it’s been a ride and a half (and I’m sure yours has been too xxx)

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    1. You bring up great concepts, Leanne…compromising, supporting, sharing, understanding. Janis shared the word “morph.” Our relationship has definitely morphed/changed since we first met our husbands (to be) I was 19 and you were 20. Young! Your words “hooked up” made me smile. I can tell the era. You are totally right with the lovely and now and then not- so- lovely.

      I spoke too soon about the benefits of a man cave. I found out yesterday we will be sharing my husband’s man cave for awhile. Water issues in our family room. I may have to call upon all the wise words shared in the comments.🙂 Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Leanne.xx

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  11. Happy anniversary! We’ve just celebrated 46. I always say ‘one day at a time’. Each day is a new day to start again. Appreciation, respect, laughter, and valuing our time together is always important.

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    1. Wow, 46 years, Norah! Congratulations! I love the concepts you bring up, especially appreciation, respect and valuing our time together. The “time” issue weighs heavily on me, if I let myself think about it. I feel the sands of time are passing very quickly these days. A good reminder about “one day at a time.” Take care and try to enjoy your Summer months.

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  12. Sweet! My parents had that beautiful romantic affair for 64 yrs. It made for a beautiful life and a tremendous life gift for their children and grandchildren. Congratulations to you and your good man.

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    1. I have seen photos of your parents, Antoinette, and they always looked very happy. And like you say, their relationship was a wonderful legacy to their children and grandchildren. Thank you for the kind wishes.

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  13. Hi Erica – congratulations … what a great inspiring read … you asked us – my answer is ‘failed’ – still live on and be happy and take opportunities perhaps one couldn’t take being married. Still I love seeing happily married couples who just their lives together – you two obviously do … wonderful!! Happy days ahead … Hilary xoxo

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    1. Thank you for your good wishes, Hilary. I believe there is a lot of luck involved in relationships, too. It also greatly depends where each person is on this journey called life. I appreciate you sharing some of your fascinating explorations and adventures. Hopefully, many more happy, healthy days for all of us.xx

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    1. I love your words, Mark. Like you say, you both have to aspire to this. And then there is that inexplicable “it factor.” Why do people get along so damn well, and others not?

      Re: tv on fire: living downtown Whitehorse many moons ago, about one mile from where we worked. Hanging indoor plants were popular for the time period. One plant was hanging above our tv (not a smart move in retrospect). I had watered the plant and some of the water had leaked through the plant pot and onto the tv cords and electrical gizmos and some sparks and a LOT of smoke started to come out of the tv. I unplugged the tv, yet still lots of smoke. My husband ran home from work in less than 4 minutes. Also, in retrospect I should have called fire department? I wasn’t sure whether it was on fire. After a period of drying out, the tv still worked. Now, did my husband care about me or the t.v……..

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    1. We wouldn’t be doing our jobs if we didn’t get mushy and embarrass our children. I feel very grateful for many reasons, Alisha. Thank you for your loving and thoughtful note.❤️

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  14. You are inspiring.
    I read your post on my cell phone. WordPress seems to have a problem with the formatting of comments. Your responses appear in a very narrow column. I wonder if there is a setting that would fix this? Maybe in the settings/comments?

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  15. I love every part of this post, Erica. First, congratulations on forty-two years. That’s an accomplishment in itself. But as you well know, it is the quality of the years more than the quantity that makes that time together special. The line that resonated the most with me was, “Romance is made up of moments, of gestures, both big and small.” Isn’t that the truth? It is the day-to-day challenges and thoughtful gestures that stand out. It is being your spouse’s best friend and biggest cheerleader.

    We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t think about what would have happened if we chose another door. It is never for more than a split second because my wife and I have been a good fit from day one. (34 years in the books for us.)

    Here’s wishing you and your husband many more happy years together.

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    1. You are right on the quality of years. I am the lucky one. Keep it our little secret so my husband does not get complacent. You are the first person that has brought up ‘biggest cheerleader.’ It makes a huge difference to have someone on my side all of these years, rooting for me and supporting me when I have tackled new careers and goals. Thank you for reading about the Sliding Doors. Like you say, it is something we all have encountered at some point in our life. Thank you for sharing your wise words, Pete. Wow, 34 years! Congratulations back to you and your wife!

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    1. Thank you for the kind wishes, Marty. The irony is how I am now sharing the man cave since yesterday. A major water leak in our family room and it seemed to happen overnight? Getting dried out and investigated. Hopefully our marriage can withstand more togetherness. Hope you and Gorgeous/Your lovely bride are well and staying safe.🙂

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  16. Congrats!! Forty two years~ something to be proud of and grateful for. My parents had 64 years of love and marriage until my dad died peacefully last year . Romance has no time nor are barriers.

    Great post and beautiful photos. Sounds like the perfect celebration !

    Peta

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    1. Wow, 64 years, Peta! I can only imagine all they have seen and weathered throughout their relationship. And then the beautiful legacy of you, Peta, children and grandchildren. Tears brimming reading your words “Romance has no time nor are barriers.” Wise, beautiful words. Thank you! ❤️

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  17. Happy Anniversary, Erica. Forty-two years is wonderful and I wish you many more. I think anything worth our devotion needs to be practiced and that includes relationships. I’d say that the key to a successful marriage is that we continue to practice love and kindness and it seems that the two of you do that. I’m glad you enjoyed your special day. ❤

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    1. Wise words, Diana, “…continue to practice love and kindness…”. I have not thought about Stephen Covey for ages until I read your comment just now. You likely recall his ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People/Families’. The priorities in our life. Thank you for your good wishes.❤️

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  18. Anniversary blessings to you. 42 years is quite an accomplishment! Roger and I have often had the conversation about how we met (it was a blind date) whether there is any other circumstances that our paths would have crossed (pretty sure the answer is no). We had both been married before for short times but have been married to each other for 34 years. We have been together longer than we have lived anywhere. We used to tease my kids and tell them we went to Parent Night Meetings with signs on our backs that identified us as their parents. We really didn’t but it was fun shock value. Couldn’t do that with my step-children because they were 200 miles away. Having been divorced, and a single parent, remarried and a pastor, I always stress with couples the importance of two key ingredients, respect and forgiveness.

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    1. Wow, Forgiveness brought tears to my eyes. It was not one of the first things I thought about, yet very true. I appreciate being forgiven for crankiness and mistakes and of course, this is a mutual feeling. And, respect is a welcome part of every relationship. Thank you for sharing your wise words, Michele. ❤️

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  19. Okay, the photos of your getaway looked decadently divine and, dare I say it – utterly romantic. Separate interests, similar interests – it’s something we were pondering the other day. We are quite different in many ways but at the heart our values are similar – and mutual respect is a deal breaker for both of us too. Every marriage is different and I think it’s quite something to continue to thrive within one. Congratulations.

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    1. We were very fortunate to get away when we did since things are changing around here, again. You bring up a great point about similar values, and mutual respect, Jo. Two very important ingredients. You are the first person to mention ‘thrive in a relationship.’ Good one! ❤️

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  20. Happy anniversary, you two lovebirds! Romance and love drip from the photos of you two together. Love it! A relationship is give and take. I’ve pursued romance in my life (which happens to be a small theme in my travel memoir as well), but, as with happiness, it’s better to discover or stumble across them than to chase them!

    You are right about romance being present in the small things. Although, sometimes those tokens are more proof of love or care than of romance per se. Like my husband doing the dishes after he already cooked, because I’m working all night or am exhausted. 🙂

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    1. I don’t often think about us and “romance” yet an Anniversary makes me stop and reflect on how grateful we are to be here. I am very curious and excited to read your memoir, Liesbet! I enjoy reading your blog and I look forward to learning more about you. Wise words “stumble across” versus “chase them.” You are also right how it is always the small things that make a huge difference in our lives. I appreciate you reading and sharing your thoughts. xx 🙂

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    1. I am grateful for making it this far, Ally. Still, always one day at a time. I spoke too soon about the ‘Man Cave.’ I am sharing this cave right now with my husband since we have a water issue in our family room. Wish me luck! Thank you for your good wishes on our Anniversary.🙂

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  21. Happy Anniversary to you and your husband, Erica! 42 years is a beautiful thing!! That spa looks wonderful. I’m happy that you were able to get away. There’s something about that…being outside of your everyday setting…that allows for meaningful moments of connection. I find that it’s often too easy to get distracted by the daily grind and love when time is spent rekindling the romance. Wishing you many more years of blessings. xx

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    1. I am really glad we did go away at the beginning of this month, since restrictions are rapidly changing around here. We stayed in a rustic cottage and saw almost no one. I know you have younger children and commitments so difficult for just you and your husband to get away. When our children were younger we also wanted to maximize the time we spent together as a family. I know you are very family oriented, Amy. ❤️Thank you for the good wishes. I hope all is well with you and your loved ones.❤️

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  22. So funny that you wrote this exact post. My hubby and I have been married for 42 years this year too. My husband lost his wedding ring TWICE!!! In the same place. We went inner-tubing down a stream near our house and he lost his first wedding ring. We went back the next year and he lost it again!!! I thought he was kidding when he said he lost it a second time, but nope – he really lost it! 🙂

    Congratulations and I hope you have many more happy years together! So happy you could get away for your anniversary!

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    1. Congratulations to you and your husband, too, Laurie! How did we get to 42 years?! I ended up finding my ring after a few days although I had a roller coaster of emotions when I lost it. Thank you for the good Anniversary wishes. I feel very grateful.🙂

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    1. Hi Karla, I did not know which direction I would go about Anniversaries and relationships. I am reminded how every relationship is unique. I also learn a great deal from the comments. 🙂 I appreciate your kind response and good wishes. Definitely grateful always and especially this year. Happy Thanksgiving! ❤️

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  23. Hi Erica,

    Happy belated Anniversary to you both and this is a fabulous post and homage to true everlasting love. 42 years is something to celebrate in a BIG way in which you did – the Grotto Spa looks heavenly! Well, since my hubby and I will be clinking to 32 years in January, we’re an even ten away from you. I hope we catch up! 🙂
    I love all the ingredients you listed and one that I thought of is R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Both partners feelings matter in every situation, so listening is also another facet of relationships, but listening is a part of communicating, too.
    And of course, as we grow older, we will most likely change from that young bride and groom who pledged their loving vows decades earlier. So, to acknowledge and accept those changes is important to keep the marriage strong and long-lasting.
    Cheers to Evergreen Love and Radiant Romance! I wish you many more years of celebration to come! 💕🎉

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    1. Thank you Lauren for this beautiful, uplifting and wise response.❤️ A big congratulations to you and your husband’s upcoming 32nd Anniversary. Every year (day) is a blessing and the years feel like a blur. You are the first person who has brought up “listening.” Like you say, part of communicating and respect. (Yes, I feel like singing R-E-S-P-E-C-T every time I see this). You likely know this already, Lauren, how a relationship gets even better and more precious with time.

      I love your phrase “Evergreen Love” and now I start humming “Evergreen” (Barbara Streisand and Kris Kristofferson). I greatly appreciate your good wishes. Have a good Thanksgiving!❤️

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  24. Beautiful post Erica, and Happy Anniversary. So inspiring. There’s no reason there can’t still be romance if the components are maintained – respect, communication, laughter, they should keep the love going. I see you already know the secret. ❤

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    1. Debbie, Your comment made me smile, since we are still working on “the secret.” A water leak two days ago in our family room means I am now sharing the Man Cave. Will our marriage withstand these new challenges?🙂

      I have been curious to read your book “Twenty Years: After “I Do.” I really enjoy reading your witty, wise and humorous blog. And, you have wonderful reviews on your books. 🙂

      I appreciate how you highlight three components in a good relationship “respect, communication, laughter.” Thank you for your very kind Anniversary wishes. Happy Thanksgiving! ❤️

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  25. Happy anniversary you love birds, you!! Look at all of the discussion you stirred up and all the folks who were moved by your post. Well done!

    My PC and I have been married 12 years and together 17. We both were pretty badly scalded in our previous marriages and it took us awhile to trust and completely love again. Over the years we have been together our romance has changed from steamy to fun-loving. And I have evolved as a wife from being somewhat needy and clingy (insecure) to more confident and self-assured. I love my husband and I love our marriage.

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    1. Leslie, I love your heartwarming response sharing your genuine and candid words of wisdom. ❤️ You describe well how our marriage journey is as unique as our life journey with many lessons along the way. Your last sentence brought tears to my eyes. “I love my husband and I love our marriage”. Thank you for the good wishes.❤️ Happy Thanksgiving!🙂

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  26. Happy anniversary Erica to you two! Lovely post, inspiring and uplifting! I loved the comments too, and would have hit the like button on each and every one but on my iPad I have to log in each time. A good laugh every now and then, a sense of adventure, a cup of tea in the morning, helping with the dishes, an excellent father, a man of integrity are all qualities of my no. 1 that I appreciate. And knowing that each new day can never be certain, so my mantra is to enjoy it while we can and a little bit of kindness helps the medicine go down, in the most delightful way. Here’s to many more magic moments for the two of you 😀🔥

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    1. Thank you, Susan, for your kind Anniversary wishes. I am sorry the “like” button was causing issues. This happens to me at times and sometimes not? I don’t know whether it is because I access the post through ‘reader’ or ‘email’ and often better luck, “Google chrome?” (I know very little about all of this.). I also learn a great deal from the comments.

      Congratulations to you and your husband, too. I know the both of you have many (happy) years together. The good laugh, excellent father, man of integrity are inspirational qualities. Like you say, every day is precious.❤️

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  27. Erica, Congratulations to your both for treasuring your relationship and let it build strong and fun.
    I am sure you will continue having fun and laugh often. You also will always have someone holding your back.
    Bless

    Miriam

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    1. Thank you Miriam, for your kind wishes. You are the first person to mention “holding your back.” What a nice feeling to have someone on your side. You make me think of the concept of how one plus one is greater than two when we are a team. Take care, Miriam.

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    1. Thank you for your good wishes, Joanne. You know first hand what it is like to live in wedded bliss. I spoke a little too soon on the man cave. I am now sharing the man cave since water/leak in our family room this past Saturday. Wish us luck.😅💕

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  28. Congratulations on 42 years, no mean feat these days! It does sound romantic, but it also sounds like true love … being there and supporting each other through whatever comes your way!

    My mother claimed the first 30 years were the hardest, all the disagreements on how to raise the kids [and massive financial burdens]. Then once the kids left she claimed it got even better!

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    1. Thank you for your thoughtful comment, Kate. The years do feel like a blur and I continue to see the sands flowing quickly in the hourglass. I agree with your Mother’s wisdom. The beginning years were the hardest. We still have challenges, although I always count my blessings. Take care and thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  29. Happy anniversary, Erica.
    My advice is to stick it out through the rough times. It takes courage and lots of work, but it pays off if both members of the partnership work at it. Being honest about what you will and won’t tolerate from your mate is important. I can’t imagine a partner who would abuse me physically, but words sometimes don’t mean the same thing to both partners. Waiting until the anger subsides completely to discuss the underlying problem leads to being able to laugh about it and refer to it later to intercept the anger before an issue develops. It draws you closer to know how your partner really feels about EVERYTHING. I’m so happy for you both. Have a wonderful 43rd year. 🙂

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    1. Thank you for many gems and the wisdom shared in your response, Marsha. I had not thought about “courage.” Good one! We definitely have had issues with misinterpreting “words.” Possibly, under the category of communication. Also, a good point on timing for discussions. Some challenges along the way since no relationship is immune to ups and downs. I feel very grateful, especially as we get older. Thank you for the good wishes. I hope you and your loved ones are well and you are having a good Thanksgiving weekend.🙂

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      1. We are doing well, thanks, Erica. We are a threesome for another month, and that adds an interesting layer to the marriage situation, both good and challenging. I’m enjoying the company of his sister. It’s like having a built in friend in a place where you know noone. 🙂

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  30. Congratulations, dear Erica! May you have many more years of togetherness and bliss!

    Lovely post as always. Romance really has nothing to do with years, I guess it just changes the way it manifests, and I do believe it just gets sweeter with some spice thrown in sometimes!

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