I Am Living Under A False Name.
An alias. A pseudonym. A false identity.
Not intentionally.
Although, this could still have serious repercussions.
I Have Been Called Different Names In My Life.
- My husband often calls me “Sweetie” or “Dear.” He likely has a few more names for me (under his breath).
- My daughters call me “Mom.”
- My parents used to call me “Friedchen.” It is a term of endearment using my middle name.
- The last few years I have had the privilege of being called “Grandma Erica.”
When Did Erica/Erika Begin?
When I began school, my teachers always wrote my name as “Erica.” I learned to write my name as “Erica.”
My signature on all of my paperwork, wedding certificate, driver’s license and bank cards is “Erica.”
Much later in life, a glance at my birth certificate revealed “Erika.” I did not think it really mattered at this point.
I was wrong!
9/11 Was Pivotal.
New passport regulations carefully scrutinized the spelling of all names. I had to make sure my passport name, birth certificate and signature were an exact match.
I now had to sign specific documents with the spelling “Erika.” I was not at all used to writing this “new” name.
My Wonderful Boss With A Great Sense Of Humour.
I was fortunate to work in a very progressive dental office for almost twenty-five years. We often had the opportunity to take continuing education courses and attend conferences. Some of the conferences were held in a different city and out of the country.
This dentist was finalizing the travel arrangements for a conference. He was initially puzzled about the “new” name, “Erika.” Our passport and ticket information had to be accurate.
He had a great sense of humour. From now on, he would address correspondence to me as “Erica/Erika.”
It aways made me smile.
Beginning the WordPress Blog.
I watched YouTube videos and I went to “how to start a blog” websites. I did not want to overthink the process. I might change my mind.
“Behindthescenery” domain was already taken. Therefore, I chose “Behindthesceneryphoto.”
I had to type in a username.
I typed in “Erica/Erika.”
I did not want to interrupt the flow of setting up a WordPress blog. I could always finesse things later.
Almost Everyone Has A Story Behind Their Name.
They may have a name in honour of a family member. We were advised to name our first child, “Donat.” We politely disregarded this suggestion. You are welcome, Sara.
Some people choose to change their name for various reasons.
Some people prefer to use their middle name or a nickname.
A glance at a birth certificate may reveal a name different from the one they have been called all their life.
My Thoughts This Moment In Time.
Most of the time I use the name, “Erica.”
Specific documents necessitate the spelling, “Erika.” My hands may shake when my signature requires this “new” spelling. I play by the rules.
In today’s world of minimalism and simplifying, “Erica/Erika” is now six syllables. Am I taking up too much room? It is cyberspace after all.
Readers in our blogging community have also been using “E/E.”
Do I Change The Name On My Blog?
I do not mind what I am called. “Erica” sounds the same as “Erika” to me.
I like and answer to all of the above.
As for the name on my blog?
I am keeping “Erica/Erika.” At least for now.
It always makes me smile.
Do you have a story behind your name? Would you like to change your name?
The Story Behind The Story
I had just completed a draft of this story about my name(s). I was not sure when or whether I would click “publish.”
This week my blog crossed paths with a blogger new to me, Annika from Annika Perry’s Writing Blog
Curious to learn more about her, I clicked on her blog site. Her most recent post: What’s in a Name? Book Review.
Immediate goosebumps for me.
Annika writes an in depth, engaging review of “What’s in a Name” a book of short stories written by Sally Cronin. Smorgasbord Blog Magazine Behind every name there is a story.
Synchronicity? Coincidence?
I especially like a quote from Yvette, Priorhouse Blog “Don’t you love it when blog world meets the real world?”
Does this ever happen to you?
Behind the Scenery 
No story behind my name but my late ex-mother-in-law thought for years that her name was Melva. Her mom called her Melva, all her family called her Melva etc. Turns out, on the birth certificate her name was actually Alva. I think it had to do with some religious rule that all names had to be saints’ names or something like that. Her mom wanted to call her Melva but Alva had to be used instead. She kept going by Melva but for anything official ol’ Alva had to be trotted out. It was a different time, then and this sort of thing happened a lot I think…
Deb
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Hi Deb, It is interesting how religion and culture affects names. It sounds like there are many stories that surface about names, even after someone is no longer with us. I extra love your names, Deborah and The Widow Badass. It seems to fit, perfectly🙂
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Thank you Erica! The only semi-interesting thing about my real name is that I have no middle name – my dad thought the Dutch tradition of saddling offspring with a whole bunch of names was stupid so 1 name only for us kids! It used to bug me and I used to make up middle names for myself when younger. But now I have this kick-ass alter ego name so I’m satisfied with that! 💕
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Now that you mention it, Deb, I think not having a middle name is rare. Not that we ever hear much about it. Yes! Totally kick-ass alter ego name! I extra like! 💝
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Nicknames can also present an issue. Proper name is Kathleen which only my mom called me. On most of my information I use Kate but I have to make sure it’s not something that will require scrutiny like a doctor’s office. About a year ago I had a mix up because an office knew me as Kate but couldn’t find me under that in their records. What a tadoo. Yes, 9/11 changed everything. Nothing is simple.
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I have heard how medical and dental offices can mix up names and files, or not find files. Not a good thing if something urgent comes up. Kate seems to suit you perfectly. And then part of your blog name “Coffee Kat” flows with Kate. I suspect you planned it this way? 🙂
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I did. Unfortunately it’s not my legal name!
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My father was born in September 1918. He was christened the week after the armistice and the vicar insisted on adding the middle name Victor. He hated the name. It was not until after his death that I found out his birth had been registered as simply James. He had not needed the Victor at all. You are the first Erica I have encountered so I think you should spell it how you like.
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Interesting story, Anne. I suspect your Father did not know about the name on the registration? Religion is often involved in names, too. Thank you for reading and sharing your story.
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I have stories behind both my legal name and my blogging nom de plume. I might write about them someday, but in the meantime I’ll be happy with whichever spelling of your name you decide on. Or keep them both, just to be different! Happy blogging, my multi-named friend.
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I imagine you would have quite the story, Ally, on your names. I would love to read about it! Thank you for validating my feelings on my name(s). I have become accustomed to writing it this way for my blog. Who knows what the future may hold?
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I love that your old boss addressed you as Erica/Erika. I suppose people find “Jill” too boring because I’m called by a lot of names: Jilly, Jilly Bean, JBean, Sleepy, Jill Bill, Jillian, Jilly Boo, Nerd…it’s a wonder I ever answer to Jill. 🙂
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I totally cracked up, Jill, when I read all the names you are called. “Jill” seems to suit you, and a great name for an author. Although, I still cannot help smiling when I reread your list of names 🙂
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LOL! Thanks, Erica/Erika. I love all of them because they were all made up by special people in my life. 🙂
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You are totally right, Jill. When they carry love with them, it does not matter what you are called.🙂
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My grand daughter is called Eris after the goddess of chaos. The solar system was fixed until they found another heavenly body near Pluto. They could not decide if it should be a planet or not so they called it Eris.
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Anne, I remember when the new heavenly body was discovered near Pluto. I just looked up some information on this. Discovered in 2005. Eris has a pretty sound to it, despite being the goddess of chaos. I learned something new. Thank you!
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Aha, that explains the two spellings. Fun read and I always enjoy when other blogs are shared and linked. Absolutely love that first image of the glacier!
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Hi Ingrid, I really appreciate your kind comment. The Jokulsarlon Glacier area is where two of the James Bond movies were filmed. I thought the photo would be appropriate for the alias, code name theme. Reading the other blogs prompted me to continue with this story. I agree with you. I also like when blogs are shared and linked🙂
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ANy name of 3 or more syllables is destined to nicknames. I also had time spelling Antoinette correctly. I got it down by 2nd grade. I was named for my beloved paternal grandfather, no middle name. My grandmother called meAntonia, younger siblings Ann, friends morphed it to Annie (never liked) and somehow on the CYP basketball team, I was dubbed Toni (which I liked). The Ann/Annie/Toni/Antoinette was used interchangeably through high school depending on the class, and friend group. I liked Toni best. It stood out against all of the other Ann-s.I started dating my boyfriend who became my husband at the end of high school. He was not going to date a Toni even if it had a feminine /i/ instead of masculine /y/. Early in my career I work in a special education preschool where there were three other Miss. Ann teachers. No special needs child with speech and language was going to struggle with Miss. Antoinette. Toni was forever my work name. I use Antoinette in my writer life.
Whew, bigger explanation than I thought. I also have issues with the last name, but that’s another rant.
Thanks for the fun post.
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Hi Antoinette, Very funny about your husband not going to date a Toni:) You have a very interesting, almost exotic name. Thank you for reading and sharing quite the story on your name. 🙂
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Ah, thanks for enlightening us on the two Erica/Erika handle! I just thought you did that because of people spelling it both ways.
My last name at birth isn’t the name I used growing up, back in the day no formal requirement or legal paperwork was required for me to use my step-dads name in school and just about everywhere but church. I never answered to my birth last name. Friends at church would nudge me and say that’s you! At 18 all that changed and I had to get everything changed to my ”real” name. It never felt like me for the time I was forced to use it. It took awhile to get used to answering to it and writing it.
Now I’m using my husband’s name. When you think about it I have spent the majority of my life using someone else’s. last name.😁
Should something happen and I have to go back to using my last name at birth I will petition the court to change my last name to my mom’s maiden name. That’s more me.
I love that image of the glaciers. You’re printing that one?
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Wow, interesting about your last name, Deborah. I do recall where we could almost call ourselves anything, years ago. Very different now. I have heard from friends where they never liked or felt like themselves with a certain name. They have gone through the trouble to change all of the paperwork. The Jokulsarlon Glacier seemed an appropriate photo to use for this post (alias, code name lol) and then stayed with Iceland photos. We were there for a month and took a lot of photos:) Thanks for reading Deborah, and sharing your interesting story:)
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To me you’ll always be my dear friend Erica with a C but I really like you using the Erica/Erika where you can cause that’s it’s own fun little story. I say fun but I know my brother Josh (Portugese spelling on birth certificate Josue) did not think it was fun when he had to change all his official documents.
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It dawned on me afterwards, Eduarda, that this post may resonate with you. Iceland photos! Because of my James Bond, code name, alias take on things. I did not know that about Josh. “Josh” suits him. You can call me any name you want, Eduarda:) xoxo
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No story behind my name… just that my mom liked the sound of it…. I love your story though!
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Your name is perfect for you, Chocoviv! Your Mother must have known this:)
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I am definitely very “lively” !!
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I have always wondered, but never asked about the dual names. Thanks for explaining. My parents used family names first and “given name” second for me and all of my siblings. I have Frances (my grandmother) in front of Suzanne on my birth certificate, but have always been called Suzanne. Same story, after 9-11 I had to match everything with my passport to avoid a hassle when traveling. Plane tickets, hotel bookings, being addressed as Frances, signing my “formal” signature, all seems foreign to me.
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Very interesting, Suzanne about family names first. I wonder whether this was a cultural way of naming children, or a personal choice? I am finding most people have a not straightforward story about their names. Thank you for reading and sharing your interesting story.
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I have read that book you mention: “What’s in a Name” by Sally, our dearest blogger and author friend. I think the expression was first used by William Shakespeare in his play:
“What’s in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”
― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet.
Though I agree with the above observation, there’s a lot in the name and I like your lovely musings about your names Erica.
I am proud of my name, which means – Bal (pronounced as BUL) – strength, roop means beauty. It has always inspired me to live up to it’s meaning. My maiden name was Balroop Bal ( Bal was my surname before marriage) I wish I had not changed it!
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Your name has a beautiful meaning behind it, Balroop. I agree with you. I think people live up to their names. I find it fascinating reading the comments. Most people have an interesting and sometimes unusual story behind their name. I have put “What’s in a Name” on my reading list. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your lovely comment.
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Thanks for the explanation. I was wondering but figured it was probably something like that. I have three sisters and all our first names start with a “J.” Throughout high school and college I was always know as Janet. No nicknames. When I was going through training to be a medical assistant, one of the other students told me my name had to be shortened to “Jan” because if the doctor was in a hurry he didn’t want to have to say two syllables. I don’t know why I believed her but I did and so started telling everyone my name was Jan. Fast forward about 25 years (two marriages and three kids later) I found myself having an identity crisis and decided that I needed to go back to being Janet. So I did. Confused some of our friends and my husband still introduces me as Jan sometimes but I really like Janet best. I wrote a post on this a while ago too. February 13th happens to be “Get a Different Name Day.”
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I am surprised how you were actually asked to shorten your name, Janet. I can’t imagine where they would have gone with three syllable Erica:) Wow! I did not know there was “Get a different name day.” Janet is a perfect name intended for you:) Thank you for reading and sharing your story.
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“Friedchen” all the way … Funny, I’ve been scribbling a draft about monikers, joking that I’m tempted to go solo with a single name only. I guess it all comes down to the “C” or the “K”.
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I know, funny:) Friedchen would not work nowadays. I had almost forgotten this name until I began to write the story. I know you had mentioned the Mike and Michael in a previous post. I do not believe there is a right or wrong. Whatever you are comfortable writing. Of course, passport and other legal information is different.
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Names are funny. Never really liked mine. And now it’s been shortened (among close friends and acquaintances) to Nan by my husband, Dan. He liked the rhyme. I’m still not sure if I like that either.
What was equally interesting to me, Erica, was the story behind your name story. It’s eery when these things happen…but I guess you were meant by some higher power to write and post your name article. I don’t believe in coincidence anymore. Things happen for a reason.
I have always know you as Erica/Erika and used Erica when I address you. Glad you are keeping both.
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I am glad you “get it” Nancy. When I clicked on Annika’s post this week, the hairs did rise on my arms. I always knew the story, and I had drafted out a post this week. I then felt the timing was right. I am leaning towards synchronicity. I greatly appreciate you reading and giving me your input, Nancy. I did wonder whether I am using up too much space. Now I think that is a somewhat silly thought. It just feels right, and I am happy to just have someone call my name. Lol
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Ah… so the secret behind the two names is finally out. All this time I just figured you had an identity crisis! What a pickle your parents potentially put you into. I guess they just had no idea there would ever be a world in which a 9/11 made governments so paranoid. I’m glad you’ve been able get around that potential dilemma. My only name issue is that my family always called me Martin (as do friends going back to elementary school), but nearly everyone else calls me Marty. I really don’t care, though my sibs cringe still when they hear Marty. Snobs, I tell ya.
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I am surprised how most people have a story about their name. I wasn’t absolutely sure when the spelling of names became important. The feedback I get is how a great deal changed after 9/11. Marty seems to suit you and your blog. Then, of course there must be a story behind, “Snakes in the Grass.” Pray tell. Possibly a post? Also, making sibs cringe can be an art form. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Marty.
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My name 3 days ago, now yours!! So now we know the meaning behind Erica/Erika. I like it!! As for using it with your blog, nothing wrong with that 🙂
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Names are in the air this week, Dee. 🙂 I knew my story. Although, I wasn’t sure when to share it. Possibly, the Universe gave me a signal? Lol. Like you say, Dee, the names work for the blog. In my real life, I only use one Erica:). Thank you for the feedback!
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I knew an Erica at school, so that’s the way I would spell it if I was guessing. However, I hope I’d be sensitive enough to notice if a person was called Erika and spell it correctly. Unlike some of the people who write to me …
It’s not just a 9/11 thing, it’s an internet thing too. At one time I didn’t bother correcting misspellings but if you look up Annabel Marsh online you’re not going to find me. I did write a What’s In a Name post myself on a long defunct blog, below if you are interested.
https://anabellibraryworld.wordpress.com/2012/05/22/whats-in-a-name-thing-3-continued/
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I know what you mean about spelling other people’s names, Anabel. I usually try to carefully check the spelling. For some people is has been a nagging irritation all of their life when people spell their name incorrectly. Very interesting information on the internet spelling. I did read your story from 2012. I thought Anabel would be more straight forward. I guess not. Your sister has a rare name “Elspeth”. Rare for me. You do have the right to have it right!
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Elspeth has problems too! It’s a Scottish name (variant on Elizabeth) and she lives in England.
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Pros and cons on having a unique name. Likely more cons:)
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I have a cousin in New Zealand who uses your spelling and pronounces Anabel as Arnabell. They told me it was French? I will look up your post, Anabel!
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I’ve never heard this pronunciation! Ana / Annabel are Spanish spellings of Anna / Annabel, but I only discovered that later in life.
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Perhaps it is Spanish not French. But definitely pronounced Arnabel! Spelt Anabel. The family were kiwis!
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Hi, Erica/Erika – I absolutely love the story of your dual names. It makes you, you! I wouldn’t change a thing!
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Hi Donna, Thank you for encouraging me to write a story about my name. The responses are fascinating. Almost everyone has an interesting and even unusual story behind their name. I remember you telling me you had a story about your name. Then I read your response on Dee’s site. Another Donna-Lynn. What are the chances?! The Erica/Erika feels right for the blog. At least for now. I always appreciate your supportive feedback, Donna!
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I think as long as it makes you smile just keep doing it Erica/Erika. A great story giving readers some background to your dual names. I’m a huge fan of coincidences and serendipity and understand the feeling of goosebumps when reading posts. It’s part of my love for this blogging community.
As to me, my name is one of the most popular girl’s names when I was born so I always know within a year or two, that any other Debbies will most likely be around my age! My father was away at sea when I was born and had just watched the movie Tammy with Debbie Reynolds in it when he got news of my birth. When asked what he wanted to call me his first response was Debbie – a lovely twist to this story was when I turned 40 he rang me up to tell me this story 🙂 It’s one of my favourite memories of him.
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I am unsure how long you have been part of the blogging community, Deb? You likely have many examples where people and their stories align or paths cross. I still get goosebumps recalling one of your recent stories including the Debbie Anne doll. I find I have been aware of coincidences and serendipity all of my life. This past year, blogging has just become an extension of my life.
I know what you mean about your name, “Debbie.” The same thing happened with my daughter, Sara. She ended up going to school with a number of Sara’s/Sarah’s.
Deb, just to clarify. You did not know why your Dad chose your name until your 40th birthday? Wow! Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Hi Erica, I’ve been blogging away for about 7 years now and still enjoy it immensely! I haven’t had too many examples of paths crossing that’s why my Debbie Anne doll story was such an amazing moment I think.
Yes my daughter is also a Sarah and hates how common it is!
No I didn’t know about my name until dad called to tell me, I know it’s a bit strange when I stop and think about it but I love telling the story 🙂 Lovely to chat with you. x
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Hi Erica/ Erika – Now I know the secret behind the two names. The name on your blog always makes you smile so I’d say it’s a keeper 🙂 Thanks for sharing your lovely photos from Iceland.
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Hi Natalie, Donna (Retirement Reflections) asked me about the names, almost a year ago. A few things happened this week where I felt the timing was right. Thank you for your lovely comment about the photos. I started to think about James Bond using a code name 007. So, I thought the photos of this area were appropriate for the story. Natalie, you would love it there! We went there for a month about two years ago. You can also see a great deal within a week. We actually want to return to Iceland.
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Thank you for the mention Erica/Erika.. my mother insisted that she be called Mollie.. only after her death at 95 did I find her birth certificate with Molly on. She also started calling everyone ‘Darling’ at about 75 which got her out of the stress of remembering everyone’s name…thanks again.. Sally
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Hi Sally, I found it a serendipitous encounter to meet Annika and read her review about “What’s in a Name” just when I had finished the draft of my story. I am learning a great deal from the comments about names. Almost everyone has a story. Interesting about your Mother. I may adopt the “Darling” sooner than later.🙂 Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts:) Erica
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Pleasure Erica and enjoy the rest of your weekend.
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Hello Erika/Erica! 😀 A wonderful post and one that answered my silent questions of your two names! I’ve already become used to seeing these two together for you and it seems to suit you! 😀 I’ve often pondered our various names in the different stages of our lives. My mother has several ‘pet’ names for me and I love how she still uses them. When my son was born I embraced being ‘Mamma’ to the full. Then there are the fun names given to me by friends & husband! Like you, I live under an alias, and when entering the US do so under a different first name. This is because the passports in Sweden put the names the way they sound best and underline the one you are known by. Annika is second on mine! This is a system the authorities in America will no longer accept (when I went there in my early 20s it was no problem!) As for my name, Annika, this was determined by my older brother who at the time was best friends with a little girl of this name!
Erica, I’m touched by your very kind mention here and it is serendipity that you came across my post about What’s in a Name? Your post here is superb and the photos are striking and stunning. You look at utter peace and harmony in Iceland on those amazing rock formations.
As Yvette says so eloquently: “Don’t you love it when blog world meets the real world?” YES! 😀🌺
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You remind me, Annika, how it can depend on who is calling you the pet names. It helps lovingly remember certain people in our lives. You made me smile again about “alias.” Very interesting how the names work in Sweden. Many cultures and countries have individual ways of documenting names.
Thank you for your very kind, supportive comments about my post. Iceland came to mind when I remembered how two of the James Bonds movies were filmed in the Jokulsarlon Glacier area. 007 as alias and code name. We had the privilege of visiting Iceland two years ago. Every day, stunning scenery.
Nice how our paths crossed this week. Yes, serendipity. 🙂
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First – that opening photo is STUNNING!! You know I have a thing about icebergs 💕
Lucky you to have a pretty name and two of them. It has an element of mystery 🙂
I’ve always disliked my name – both first and middle – and I always envied those with nicknames lovingly bestowed by family and peers. Unfortunately I’ve always just been Joanne. Ugh 😕
Everyone called my mother Jopie. In Dutch the ‘J’ is pronounced as a ‘Y’, so it would be pronounced as Yo-Pee. Much later I learned her name was actually Johanna named after her grandmother. It never made me like my name any better. Is it too late now to change my name? 😉
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Joanne, if you have not been to Iceland, you would love it! We were there for one month, two years ago. We want to go back. Thank you for your kind comment about the photo. 🙂 The photos seemed appropriate because of the link to 007 James Bond.
This is the first time I have heard “Jopie.” One of the comments talked about a pet name, usually a close name for a friend or family member. Interesting on how her name was actually Johanna.
I find it fascinating how almost everyone has a story behind their name. I like your name, Joanne🙂
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I have been to Iceland – but only for 3 days. A month would have been better!!! A visit to the glacier park on the east end of the island was on my wish list but simply not doable in the 3 days we had available – especially when one day we were arriving, and one day we were leaving. I would LOVE to go back!
I don’t know what the origin of Jopie might be but it was definitely an unusual name in our small northern Ontario town. I was quite surprised when my brothers (her executors) had ‘Jopie’ engraved on her burial stone rather than her given name. It then occurred to me that it was the most logical thing to do. Most people did not know her real name.
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I’m so happy to read the backstory to your name Erica/Ericka. I was wondering about it and always felt a bit weird trying to decide which one to use to reply to your comments. Now I know it could be any combination and you’d gladly smile and reply back. I’ve always been cursed with people who spell my name wrong – Shelly versus Shelley. My daughter’s name is Sarah with the ‘h’. She has the same problem Sara versus Sarah. Your daughter is beautiful by the way and so are the Grandma Erica photos! And the opening photo is stunning as Joanne said!
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You have a really nice sounding name, Shelley. I can see how the spelling can vary. I specifically named my Sara (without the H) since her name was based on a story I was reading at the time. Thank you for your very kind comments about my family and the photos.🙂 I always enjoy reading your updates, stories and your beautiful photos, Shelley🙂
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Thank you, Erica/Ericka :-). My neice’s name is Ericka, and as I typed that, I couldn’t remember which way she spelled it?! Oops…so I checked, and it is with the k. What book were you reading when you named Sara? You’re welcome – I enjoy your posts and photos as well. I’m glad we’ve crossed paths here in the blogosphere!
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I cannot even remember the book. Not a mainstream book or a classic. I just recall how the story made me feel and it had a Sara in it without the H. “Ericka” is more unusual, I think. Thanks for sharing, Shelley🙂
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That’s neat that you remember the feeling of the book. I love books that make me feel like remembering them. I think you’re right, the ‘k’ version is less common. You’re welcome!!
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Thank you for sharing your story, Erica. I often wondered why you have two versions of your name on your blog.
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A blogger/friend encouraged me to write about it, and it seemed like the timing was right. You can call me anything you want, Winnie! 🙂
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Love your “name” post. So funny, the “coincidence,” which I believe proves that the universe speaks/listens/connects. I read Sally’s books (both volumes) on What’s in a Name a while ago and really enjoyed.(Annika’s review is great.) In the past I’ve written several posts on my name and what it’s brought to me. Your post is fabulous in explaining your blog title of Erica/Erika. (Although I know it was a pain after 9/11). I had a similar problem in that my parents didn’t give me a middle name, so for the first 30-some years of my life, I was Pamela Wight. Then when my guy and I married (35 years ago) he gave me a middle initial – “P.” He’s never told me what that initial means. https://roughwighting.net/2013/11/22/whats-in-the-middle-of-your-middle-name/ So, I’ve had a bit of a struggle with my social security card and passport and license also. ;-0 Some places I have an middle initial, others I don’t. 🙂
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I know you have touched on this before in your stories, Pamela, how the universe speaks and connects. I also think we need to pay attention. I have both of Sally’s books on my reading list. Very funny and intriguing on your middle name. I read your post on Middle Names. Wow, 2013, time flies:) I think not having a middle name is still rare, sometimes cultural. Your story also gave me a glimpse into your parent’s lives and possibly an example of a good marriage. Know when to hold them, know when to fold them. A very funny post Pamela, Michelle, Thankful, Nameless, S, Wight. (Your comment says “P” and your story says “S”) Either way, it is a mystery.
Thank you for your kind, supportive comment and sharing your story.🙂
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Haha. I can’t believe I said Pamela P. I suppose P for PERPLEXED. 🙂 The universe perplexes us, but in wondrous ways, yes? Thanks for reading my Middle Name angst. Neat comment about my parents’ marriage, and I’d agree. They pulled a “united front” together – I just didn’t know when to fold ’em. 🙂
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I think that whatever makes you smile is what you should go by. And, since both names sound the same, we can call you whichever we want and no one is the wiser 🙂. I imagine that some people call me Janice rather than Janis… but I usually let it slide. As someone said… Call me what you want, just don’t call me late to dinner.
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Thanks for “getting it” Janis on how both names sound the same. I was going to try to fit in “just don’t call me late to dinner.” Thank you for adding this. Another cut/removal from the post: “The name game”. Too crazy using the names Erica and Chuck. Your comment made me smile, Janis🙂
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This post reminds of of a 1920 novel that I recently read (because, me being me, I enjoy reading things that are a hundred years old). It is called Mary Marie by Eleanor Porter. The main character’s parents couldn’t agree on whether she should be named Mary or Marie, so her father called her Mary and mother called her Marie. This was hard when she was a child, but as an adult, she realized that the two names reflected the various components of her personality. Mary was a very practical person; whereas Marie was fun-loving.
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Reading your blog site always makes me think how 100 years ago was not that long ago. Many of the food items bring back memories, likely linked to my parents. Oooh, I can see how parents may like a variation of a similar name or not agree on a name. Interesting story, Sheryl. I will try to find the book at my elibrary. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts:)
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I would love to have two names 😂. I always thought Susan was way too boring; I wanted to be Susannah, Suzanne, Susie… anything but Sue or Susan, ha ha.
You have been handed a gift!
I loved your photos and the wonderful personal story. Finally your devoted readers got to know the story behind E/E!!
Love
Susan Grace
❤️🍀❤️
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Susan, I greatly appreciate your warmth, kindness and encouraging words. You started the E/E and I feel it is also a term of endearment and it makes me smile. 🙂💕
I love your name “Swooning Grace.” I was planning to ask you the story behind your name, and I thought I may find a clue on your “About” page. Your soul, Susan, is a diamond within. (I picked up this phrase from a very wise woman:) Thank you! 💕
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Thank you E/E 😘. Grace is a family surname and also my middle name, so my blog title kind of popped up via inspiration and proximity as perfectly natural for what I wanted to do with the blog. I have thought about writing how the blog title came about and maybe I will do so one day and explain why my blog signature photo is the famous 3 Graces painting.
Have a beautiful Sunday,
Susan Grace
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Very interesting on “Grace.” I would love to read more about your story on the blog title and your name. I find I have learned a great deal from the comments on this post. The history of names is fascinating! I am intrigued on your painting? I have only known you a short time here, in cyberspace, Susan. Your thoughts and stories are often thought-provoking, wise and contain deeper layers. They can also be fun. Possibly a microcosm of life.🙂 Always interesting to share thoughts. Today, a special day of “Remembrance” “Veterans Day” 💕
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P.S. my Mom changed her name (not legally) from Mary Therese to Tesse. And to this day I always get confused if Therese has an “H” or not and once upon a time I checked her birth certificate just to be sure. It has an “H” but I swear she used to write it as Terese, as that seemed closer to Tesse!!
Oh, Mom 😂
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Wow, definitely somewhat confusing on the name and the spelling. She likely had her reasons. Thank you for sharing, Susan 💕
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Keep the name Erica/Erika….it’s much like the Yin & Yang of your personality. Love you both.
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Thank you! You can call me by any name (almost) XOXO💕
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Your blog posts are always food for thought. I have always disliked my name. This weekend in the midst of a heated discussion about what we should dust our wooden furniture with, my husband called me “Leslie”, for emphasis. Not hon, or babe but by my name, the name I dislike…Leslie. I felt like he was really driving home a point!
My parents knew I didn’t like my name even as a young girl. My father said my name Leslie Susan meant swamp lily! Who doesn’t want to be a swamp lily?? And then he tried to say I was named for the Cinderella of my childhood Leslie Ann Warren. But I was already born when that movie came to TV in 1965. I was meant to be a Laura or Lauren or Laurel, I am certain. And so I named my daughter Lauren since I couldn’t have it for myself.
My granddaughters call me different names. To one, I am Mimi. And to the other, I am Gabba. When I am talking to them it gets messy. “Cadence, can you pass the salt to Mimi and Lucia can you please sit down for Gabba?”
I have called you Erica because you put that name first. I didn’t know the story behind the two spellings but figured you put the one you preferred first. So to me, you are Erica. Nice to meet you, Erica. I am Lauren.
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“Heated discussion” about dusting made me smile, Leslie. Yet, I know first hand how buttons can be pressed, even in a good marriage. Funny on your Grandma names. You could write an entire post on your name(s) if you have not done this. Since your writing name is Leslie, I may stick with this. I like “Leslie” and I like “Lauren”. Reminds me of the song “Tell Laura I love her.” Oh no, now I don’t know what to call you? L/L? 💕
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I get called Tracey All. The. Time. The priest did it on our wedding day: “We’re here for Grant and Tracey”…no we weren’t! My maiden name is Lyons and the number of times I’ve been tempted to change it back! My husband goes by his middle name & that’s always confusing when it comes to travel bookings – come to think of it, my father also goes by his middle name. Anyways, to me, you’re Erica…or Erika…I can’t quite decide.
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Good grief on the “Tracey.” You are right on the travel bookings. “They” are very particular on the name(s) and the spelling. You can call me whatever you like, Joanne. I answer to everything………well, almost everything🙂
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Aha, the mystery is finally revealed! But, if you kept spelling your name as Erica in the beginning, why didn’t your parents correct you? Or, your family, or anyone who knew you as Erika? Just curious.
I’ve considered going by a nickname or loosely changing my name, because so many English speakers can’t pronounce, let alone spell Liesbet. Yet, I do like my name, as it’s special and it has been called beautiful.
When I played competition volleyball, my team mates called me “Lies” to go for the ball. My full name would be too long in such split-second situations. An aunt still calls me Lies or Liesje (the endearing “small form” of my name). In general, I have no need or use to change my name. I’ve never had a pet name or nickname either. And I was and am not interested at all in change my last name, ever since I’ve been married. That is not a Belgian tradition either.
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Liesbet, Now that I think about it, even my birthday cards had the spelling, Erica.
I also think the language barrier had a huge impact. My parents could only speak and write in German, especially when they first moved here. I only knew how to speak German when I began kindergarten. Therefore, when I am a young girl in school learning how to read, spell and write, how the teachers wrote my name was how I spelled my name. They likely would have used “Erica” on report cards, too.
I really like your name, Liesbet! It suits you and joins well with your blog name. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.🙂
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What an interesting story, Erica!! I can see how 9/11 would have impacted documents needing to match the birth certificate. I don’t have any interesting stories around my name. My parents liked it. Apparently so did everyone else in the mid 70’s because I had more than one in each of my classes. Funnily enough, my parents didn’t know anyone named that so they had no clue it would be a popular name. As a child, I always wanted a more majestic sounding name like Victoria (which was my name anytime we played pretend). However, I’ve come to appreciate my name the older I’ve gotten. 🙂
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Hi Amy, I have been asked a few times about my name(s) on the blog. I just felt the timing was right. I was very surprised how many unusual stories came out of the woodwork from the blogging community. I especially like your name “Amy” and “Bedlam & Daisies”. They also flow well together. I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your thoughts.🙂
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This story was meant to be shared!!! Got goosebumps reading about the synchronicity/coincidence when you questioned whether to click ‘publish’. I’m glad you did. Not only is it an interesting story but the pictures are LOVELY (the landscapes at Landmannalaugar, Iceland and Jokulsarlon Glacier Lagoon are professional quality). I am glad that you have decided to stick with both names for now. They are both you!.
When I was a kid, I thought I had the most boring name in the world. I went by a nickname for many years and can tell how long someone has known me by what they call me. When I was about 10, I added an ‘e’ to the end of my middle name and used that for about 6years until I got my driver’s license and passport. And I actually love it when someone that doesn’t know me well but recognizes me calls me by a different name (often Barbara for some odd reason). It is fun to ‘wear’ that new name, if only for a moment. I’ve long since gotten used to boring old Lisa.
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Thank you for your very kind comment, Lisa. Iceland photos seemed appropriate because of the the 007 James Bond link to the story. Interesting how you are called Barbara at times. Is this your middle name? I love your name, “Lisa.” It goes really well with your blog name. Lisa of the Seas, One Ocean at a Time. All of your blog posts are amazing, Lisa. I spent a weekend evening carefully reading and enjoying your last post. I was transported to a beautiful setting and culture. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. I look forward to connecting with you:)
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Barbara is not my middle name …perhaps I just look like a Barbara ;-). Thank you for my new moniker ‘Lisa of the Seas’ 🧜♀️💙✨
Ahoy from Cristobal, Panama where we are getting ready to sail across the Canal (again) tomorrow!
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Safe travels, Lisa. I look forward to living vicariously through you. Especially the photos and the stories💕
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Lisa – priorhouse here- and had to say that I love the name Lisa – not boring at all and has a whistle prettiness to it – and I once had the handle of Lisa because this computer I used – Lisa was the user name and in word – all of my papers said Lisa – people thought it was my real Name – haha
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Very funny about your alter ego, Yvette🙂
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might make a good pen name someday
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Ha! Isn’t it funny that Lisa was your handle for a time. Love it!
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It was funny! I did not know the name was embedded in Word and so when I gRaded papers – the reviewers comments said “Lisa” and students thought it was my first name (and I love your name – it really does whistle and it is pretty)
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Hi Erica/Erika!
I read this post earlier this month (but was not logged in and so commenting now)
Thanks for adding that quote from my post! Gosh – it feels like it is happening to me more and more – this connection from blogosphere to real life! And hearing your fun experience with reading Annika’s post at that pivotal time is wonderful!
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I was going to ask you about the two names – I thought you did that Two name thing because maybe you were bilingual and it had to do with another language you were fluent in and gave the different name.
Enjoyed hearing the story and I say keep both! It might sorta be long for digital world but not really that long and best of all – it is memorable – keep it!
And for me – did you know I was named Susan for about two minutes – then my dad came in and nicely said it was his turn to name the child (lol) and my mom gladly obliged
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OMgosh Yvette, Another goosebump moment. Thank you for validating my feelings/experiences “connection from blogosphere to real life.” My gut on this one, is I believe it happens in other parts of our life, too. We are possibly more aware when we are creative and writing. Again, I don’t have the answers. Yvette does seem to suit you, a perfect name for you, especially since your Father chose it for you.💕
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well it was also after a past girlfriend – and my mother never minded – go figure – lol
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Hi Erica/Erika – I’m glad you explained your name to me. There’s always an interesting story behind our names. My mother’s name was June Barbara and she gave my older sister June as a middle name and Barbara as my first name. It’s nice! It must have been a little confusing for you to use both spellings, but you have a good reason and it seems natural to me now.
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Now that you mention it, Barbara, my daughters have chosen family names for their children. I found the Icelandic Name system interesting and unique. Based on the Mom and Dad’s name and depending on gender of the child. You may be familiar with their system. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Barbara. Your name is perfect for you and goes well with your blog name.🙂
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I have a daughter named Erica. When we named her, we debated whether to spell it Erica or Erika, but in the end chose to spell it with a “C”. However, her Oma always preferred to spell my daughter’s name “Erika.” I like both spellings.
Jude
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Hi Jude, I had the opportunity to briefly meet your Erica. 🙂 I think the German spelling is often Erika. Donna had asked me many months ago about my name(s) and she suggested a possible post about the story. I find the comments on this topic very interesting. Many unusual stories.
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Ahhh names. I have noticed that most people do not like their middle names and either never ever use them or drop them completely. So it was with me. My middle name was Susan and I have always hated that name for me. It just didn’t fit. So when I got divorced and changed my name back to my maiden name, I dropped Susan and did away with it, just like that! I did wonder why you had the Erica/Erika combo, so thanks for the behind the scenes story on that.
Peta
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Interesting about middle names, Peta. Now that you mention it, I have noticed how some people are no longer giving their children a middle name. I think almost every single person I have met has a story about their name or someone close to them. I like your phrase “it just didn’t fit.” “Peta” is a great name and seems to really suit you! Erica
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Hi Erica/ Erika, either will do as they sound the same. You must have German heritage as Erika is spelt
the way both Germany ( and also Sweden) would.
Friedchen must be the sweet version for Frieda. Little Frieda. Did you have a name like that?
My name – Miriam – came to be as my maternal grandfather seriously asked my parents that if their first child is a girl, please would you call her Miriam. Not Swedish. Middle name is my mother’s first name. This is common practice in Sweden.
names are intriguing and can be important in anyone’s life.
Great post Erika 😊
Miriam
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Nice to meet you, Miriam! I am delighted to connect with you via Jill’s blog. Thank you for the follow. You are right about the German heritage. And, Frieda is my middle name. I was called Friedchen for many years. You are right on how names can be very important. I greatly appreciate you reading and your lovely comment. I look forward to reading the posts on your site.🙂 Erica
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Hi Erica/ Erika, I discovered you via Liesbet’s blog. What a wonderful explanation for your dual names. And it makes total sense to me. I guess it all goes back to our birth certificates, doesn’t it? Although my parents named me Teresa, they always called me Terri – as did everyone. (They only called me Teresa if I was in serious trouble. 🙂 ) I even managed to get my Social Security Card in the name of Terri. But when I applied for my passport, they required a birth certificate … so I became Teresa again. Many years later my conflicting names became a problem and I changed it legally to Terri. It’s funny how these things can follow you all your life. I’m so glad to know that I’m not alone in this name confusion. All the best, Terri
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Nice to meet you Terri (and James),I was visiting your blog and I became lost in your stories and your photos. Interesting, beautiful and fun! I have subscribed to your blog.
Interesting about our names. It seems as if almost everyone has a story about their name. I also had most of my I.D. under Erica and then it all became an issue with updating my passport. Exactly as you described, Terri. Thank you for reading and sharing your story. I am glad our paths crossed via Liesbet. (I love Liesbet and her blog🙂). I look forward to learning more about you and James. Erica
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I’ve been wondering about Erica/Erika as I’ve seen your comments on various blogs. Now I know! I was named by my dad. My first name is my mother’s middle name, and my middle name is her twin sister’s middle name. My dad figured in that way, no one in the family would get their nose out of joint.
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Hi Liz, I find that almost everyone has a story behind their name. Your Dad sounds like he was a diplomatic man and he wanted to make sure everyone was happy. A daunting task.🙂 I just visited your blog and I see we have many friends in common. I subscribed to your site and I look forward to learning more about you. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.
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Yes, my dad was definitely the peacemaker in the family.
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In our brief connection, Liz, I strongly suspect your Dad was a very wise man.
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Yes, he was. I miss his wisdom, but part of me is relieved that he doesn’t have to see what this country has become. It would break his heart.
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I am reluctant to press the “like” button. Huge hugs.
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Thank you, Erica.
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Hi Erica/Erika. Lol, I loved your post. I get it. And I like the name. Should be a TV show, lol. 🙂
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Hi Debbie, I finally decided to explain the names, and then I received fascinating, varied comments. It seems like everyone has a story behind their name. It was also coincidental how Sally Cronin’s book “What’s in a Name” came up right around the same time. Annika had recently reviewed this book. Interesting how our paths cross. 🙂 Your comment made me smile. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. Erica or Erika (I answer to both 🙂)
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Lol, I love the double name. And yes, the universe does work in mysterious ways. 🙂 x
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If your parents called you Friedchen then they will have been of German origin, and, I am sure you know, Erika is the German spelling of Erica.
I only have one name and even that is thanks to the nurse who attended my Mum. She came to Mum’s bed, carrying the newborn me and saying, “here you are, here’s your little Ursula”. Having lost their first baby, perhaps my parents were afraid to choose a name for their second.
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Hi Friko, Nice to meet you. I was visiting your blog and I see we have friends in common. Extra challenging where you are living right now and I wish infinite hugs would help.
My sister’s name is Ursula. The rest of my family has very German names. My birth certificate says “Erika.” When I wrote this post I began to find out how almost everyone has a story behind their name. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Take care.
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What an interesting story!
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