Wrinkles in Time

Out of the Mouths of Babes 

Cuddly 5-year-old Abby runs her fingers along my neck.

          “Why do you have wrinkles, Grandma?”

Abby’s Mother, my Daughter, spits out her drink laughing. 

Me and my Daughter, Alisha

I am also caught off guard.        

Tears brimming, 

          “because I am lucky to be here right now and hold you on my lap,

 precious Abby.”

Would I Trade My Wrinkles?

 And miss the laughs my husband and I share every day.

And miss how my friends and family make me smile.

And miss the tears, caring deeply about those I have loved and lost.

I Would Not Trade My Wrinkles

And miss the depth and abundance of emotions I have lived and shared.

I am lucky to be right here right now and hold my precious grandchildren on my lap.

“It is a privilege to have these Wrinkles in Time”

Do you celebrate your birthday or would you rather stop counting birthdays?

Behind the Scenery

My Birthday

I wrote a post in January, 2021 where I was celebrating my 774-month-old birthday.

My Ultimate Favourite Meal and Wine Glasses from Hell

Six months have flown by and I am celebrating a milestone this month. 

Every birthday is a milestone

Privilege of Holding Grandchildren On My Lap

Cuddling and reading a wonderful book to 5-year-old Abby and 7-year-old Sadie.

Book: “Tina Lost in a Crowd” by Miriam Hurdle

Miriam’s blog: The Showers of Blessings

Reading “Tina Lost in a Crowd” by Miriam Hurdle

My Daughter, Sara’s post on her blog: Every Wrinkle Came From a SmileAging With Grace

Sara’s blog: Relax, It’s all Write

Marty’s comment on my January, 2021 post still cracks me up:

“Oh, go on, please. You don’t look a month over 500 months.

Who’s foolin’ who here anyway?!“

Marty’s blog: Snakes in the Grass

An inspirational, good friend left me this note to read one morning at work:  “Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”  (quote by Hunter S. Thompson)

(thank you C.S.)

Thank you for my Wrinkles in Time.

My Life So Far

“It was nothing I thought it would be and everything I had hoped”

(by Erica Henault)

Copyright: ©️ 2018 – 2021 behindthesceneryphoto.com – Erica Henault – All rights reserved. All photographs and writing are my own unless otherwise noted. 

              

154 thoughts on “Wrinkles in Time

  1. I loved this post, Erica! Every thought, image, and quotes were spot on!

    I agree with was it Marty? “Who said you don’t look a day over 500 months”!! Fabulous observation! 😀

    I love Hunter Thompson’s quote. Let’s ride in that way to the Pearly Gates!!! In the meantime let’s earn some more wrinkles. 🥰

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    1. Thank you for your lovely, supportive words, Jill. This is the first time I have heard this Jimmy Buffett song. I listened all the way through…beautiful…the music and the lyrics. ❤️This line will stay with me “wrinkles will only go where the smiles have been.” Thank you for my smile lines. ❤️

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        1. One of Jimmy Buffett’s other songs also holds special meaning for us “Margaritaville.” It was played at my daughter’s wedding in Mexico. He does get to the heart of life with his music and lyrics. I now have “Barefoot Children” on my playlist. Thank you! Many smiles sent your way ❤️

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  2. Ah yes, another off-the-cuff, snark comment from moi that somehow turned into an actual witticism. Breathing a sigh of relief you never took offense, Erica; for one thing your husband is much bigger than I am — that Samson-like hair of his grown over the last year has probably only added to his strength!

    Who can’t love a post that combines beautiful pictures of you and your family (great shot of you on the beach, btw) combined with a Hunter Thompson quote. That’s wonderful skidding indeed.

    Thanks for the link to Sara’s blog. I’ve signed up for it! – Marty

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    1. And once again you crack me up, Marty “Samson-like hair.” I am leaving the hair thing up to my husband. He said he will cut it after his second vaccine. His second vaccine got postponed for a few weeks due to our heat wave. The extra shampoo is really eating into our budget.😀

      Thank you for your supportive words and adding to my smile lines. 🙂

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  3. Love this post, Erica! I am a July baby too. You’ve given me the idea to figure out my age in months as well…love that photo of you at your half-birthday!!! Yes, every birthday IS a milestone and every day is a gift. You love your life and it shows on (and adds to) your beautiful face, my friend.

    Deb

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    1. Thank you for your lovely, kind words, Deb. I know you appreciate every day, too. My half birthday was a timely coincidence. Any excuse for a celebration. Like you say, every day is a gift. Enjoy your birthday, too. I hope to celebrate mine with family I have not seen for a year. Thank you for my smile lines, Deb! ❤️

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    1. This Hunter Thompson quote was new to me at the time. I came across a slip of paper recently with this note written on it when I was cleaning through files. A great reminder. 🙂Thank you for your thoughtful words, Janis, “…full and authentic life…” I don’t think much about wrinkles until our little Abby brought them to my attention.❤️

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    1. Until I saw your note, Nancy, I had not figured out my months age yet. Many reasons to celebrate. I also have worry wrinkles. Difficult to avoid. Here is to more smile wrinkles for the both of us. Happy Birthday to you, too.💕

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  4. This is so funny! It reminds me of a co-worker whose very young grandnieces were staying with her. They saw her putting cream on her face and asked her why she does that. She said so she doesn’t get wrinkles. The little darling said, “its not working Auntie!” Gotta love kids.

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    1. Thank you for your thoughtful, kind words, Donna. My actual birthday is next week and I am planning to spend it with family I have not seen this year. In the meantime, I will turn every day into a celebration. Thank you for many of my smile lines, Donna. I look forward to many more. ❤️

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    1. Abby seemed fine with my answer. I am not sure what to do with my daughter, who could not contain her laughter. I hope you also have a wonderful birthday, Anabel. I hope to spend mine with family I have not seen this year. Grateful to be here.

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  5. Happy birthday Erica and such a beautiful post.You are such a beautiful soul that you are surrounded by love and those who want to be close to the lovely person that you are. Like you, I would not trade my wrinkles and I happily celebrate my birthday each year. This year I will have reached one more year than my Mum did so I’m always grateful to have life. Actually Elliot pointed to the veins in my hands and asked ‘what are they, Nan?’ Abby’s comment reminded me of him. Enjoy your special day surrounded by love and attention because you are special too! xx

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    1. I love the stories and the photos you share about your Mom, Sue.❤️ Losing a loved one far too soon puts perspective on our lives and what is important. Abby’s comment caught me off guard and I kept thinking about what she said. I don’t know what to do about my grown daughter who could not stop laughing. 😀Grateful for all. Thank you for my smile lines, Sue. xx

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  6. I had started a reply and lost it, my computer was tired, after charging first my Fitbit and then my Kindle. I could not stop smiling all through your post; it was wonderful, is wonderful The beautiful smiles on all your faces, and I liked the celebrating of months instead of years. Maybe I will try that, but maybe I would feel older? Best and blessings, Michele
    p.s. shared on my Facebook page:)

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    1. I know what you mean about a tired computer, Michele. This often happens to me with Zoom and Facetime and loading up photos. I began celebrating month birthdays by coincidence this past January. I was visiting my daughter and we thought it would be funny to do a “months” photo of me. Thank you for your lovely, kind words and sharing. xx Erica

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  7. Absolutely love the way you think, Erica. You are so lucky to have family as you do and to have grandchildren puts such a huge smile on my face. I’ve missed out on that part of life but have “other” to love and to cuddle. What a great post!!! I wouldn’t trade my wrinkles for anything either. We’ve both earned them!! xo

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    1. Thank you AmyRose for your kind, supportive words. I am grateful for the friends and family in my life. I agree about not trading the wrinkles. Thank you for helping create more smile lines with your beautiful posts, photography and words. ❤️

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  8. I think every wrinkle is worth its weight in gold Erica – like you say, they’re a sign of a life that’s been well lived. I don’t want to be a smooth faced/self-focused woman….I want to be out there living and loving and laughing every day – and the wrinkles are worth every moment of that. I laughed at Abby’s question – Sophia asked me how old I was this weekend and if I was “old” – her mother told her that she’s not supposed to ask questions like that….so we talked about it later – I told her I was “medium old” – not young and not really old…..somewhere in between. She was more than happy with that answer – don’t you just love the innocent questions? Wonderful post and I loved all those family and friend photos xxx

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    1. Well said, Leanne “…every wrinkle worth its weight in gold…”❤️ I was caught off guard with Abby’s question. It continued to pop up in my mind. Ergo, the Wrinkles post. I still laugh at my daughter’s spontaneous reaction. Now you are making me smile “medium old”. I like this! It is interesting how we learn a great deal from our grandchildren’s innocent questions. Thank you for adding to my smile lines each week! xx

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  9. Those wrinkles are signs of a life well-lived. Too bad people worry about unimportant things like that instead of focusing on their inner beauty. Thanks for putting things in perspective, Erica.

    Leave it to the kids to make us laugh with their questions. Your grandchild’s question reminded me of a funny incident I had when I was teaching. Our son was a baby, and we had spent a long night up with him. He was finally asleep, and I was dressing for work in the dark so that my wife could get some much-needed sleep. The kids were sitting on the carpet for our morning meeting, and one of the quietest kids raised her hand. I was so excited to call on her because she rarely talked in those days. I called on her, and she asked, “Mr. Springer. Why do you have one brown shoe and one black shoe? I looked down at my feet and exploded with laughter. We all shared a laugh at my expense.

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    1. Not sure if my other reply went or not but I wasn’t finished. I love that grandchildren are so open and will ask anything. I adore that you post pictures of them and one can see that you, like me, are totally invested in their happiness. Aren’t we blessed to have wrinkles, daughters who laugh at us and wonderful little grands in our lives.

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      1. I know you are very much a ‘hands on’ participating and invested grandparent, Bernie. We are blessed to have our children and grandchildren in our lives. My daughter and I were talking about this “wrinkle” incident yesterday and more belly laughs. Thank you for your thoughtful, supportive comment.

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        1. I didn’t need Covid to remind me. My best friend lost a daughter to cancer who was 3 and that impacted my life in a huge way along with being a trauma nurse. Life is so precious and time goes so quickly. As an aside — we don’t belly laugh enough. It’s so good for us. And — no idea why my reply ended up inside Peter’s reply. Silly me or silly computer!

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          1. I am very sorry to hear about your friend’s daughter, Bernie. I cannot imagine the deep sadness. And you have seen and learned a great deal in your career. Interesting about the belly laugh. It is rare, yet feels so good.🙂 All turned out okay re your commenting, Bernie. I always greatly appreciate your thoughtful sentiments and words.

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    2. Hi Pete, I was caught off guard by Abby’s innocent question. And her question stayed with me. Your story is hilarious! How many of us have left the house in the morning with our slippers on? Just sayin’. 🙂 Like you say, kids make us laugh. You bring up another great point about “perspective” and what is truly important. Thank you for your funny and thoughtful comment.

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  10. Erica, what a beautiful story about aging with your family all around you. Like you, I am so grateful for this stage of life — old enough to step off the treadmill and feel gratitude for the life I’ve lived, my grandchildren, Rob’s and my adult children, and a loving partner in Rob. Note that you will reach 780 months just two months before me. Happy birthday next week.

    Jude

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    1. You are right, Jude, how it is about gratitude and the life we’ve lived. Your comment made me smile. I said something to Chuck about being 65 years old yesterday and he said I am not there, yet. I did not do the math about my birthday until one of the comments pointed it out. Here is to celebrating many more months of birthdays for the both of us!

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  11. Well, I’m smiling as I read your post Erica and I can feel the happy endorphins as a result. Each and every photo a treasure. Every day we get to spend with our loved ones is a blessing. So thank you for that! And a happy birthday for the upcoming one! I’m always amazed when I have another one – I could never have imagined that I would get to be this or that age.They roll on, like a rolling stone (I can feel a song coming on) each day a blessing. A friend gave me a silk pillowcase for my last birthday – she said she hopes it helps! (Backhanded?)

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    1. I wholeheartedly agree with you, Susan “every day we get to spend with our loved ones is a blessing.” I am with you on the birthdays sneak up on me. I was celebrating my half birthday 6 months ago, and these months have flown by. Ha, ha….a song coming on. Oooh, I ‘get it’ about the silk pillowcase. I have been reading about these for awhile. Likely too late for me to begin at this time. 🙂Thank you for adding to my smile lines, Susan, today and always. ❤️

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  12. Erica, it’s wonderful to see you with your family, all together in actual real life and wow, so many smiles! 😀 You have me beaming away, your joy is contagious. Wrinkles? What wrinkles! 😀 Like you, I celebrate life to the full, enjoy every birthday and can’t understand those who mourn another year — so many do not make it this far.

    Aww … I LOVE how you are cuddled up with Sadie and Abby reading Miriam’s ‘Tina Lost in a Crowd’. Precious photo, precious times.

    Wishing you a brilliant birthday, my dear friend! May your day be filled with love, family and friends. hugs xx ❤️ 💐

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    1. Hi Annika, I wholeheartedly agree with you about celebrating life to the full. Interesting how you bring up “so many do not make it this far.” I have had some recent private emails discussing how friends/family have lost loved ones far too young. This is when ‘count our blessings’ truly hits home. Reading with Abby and Sadie are moments I treasure. I think it is also a good excuse to cuddle/snuggle with the girls. Miriam’s book, Tina Lost in a Crowd” is a delight to read with many lessons. They both request me to read your lovely book too, Annika, “Oskar’s Quest.” I am still in awe how Abby has memorized almost all of the book. 🙂

      I hope you are able to continue visiting family and friends and get out on some adventures. Thank you for your good wishes, Annika, and helping create some of my smile lines. ❤️

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    1. Thank you, Norah for your kind and lovely wishes. I am (almost) oblivious to the wrinkles I gather and grateful to still be on life’s pathway. 🙂I appreciate your supportive words and thank you for my new smile lines.

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  13. Beautiful testimony confirming the fact that every day is a gift and there’s a celebration in every day. Thank you, Erica. You have a beautiful tribe.

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    1. Thank you, Antoinette for your lovely comment. You are right how every day is a celebration. You know first hand about being surrounded by “a beautiful tribe.”❤️

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  14. Erica/ Erika, This is a lovely post and look at all the beautiful smiles in your photos. You have a loving family and are surrounded by love. That’s the best. Happy birthday next week!

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment and good wishes, Natalie. I am grateful to be surrounded by a lot of love in all of its forms. Thank you for my smiles each week with your positive spin on life, adventures, using all of our senses and your gorgeous photos!❤️

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  15. What a fabulous post on the joys of aging, Erica, and I loved all the photos! So precious, and I love the quote from Hunter Thompson too. You said it well. I wouldn’t trade a wrinkle in for anything because with that wrinkle comes a memory that I wouldn’t want to fade, even if the road at the time was a bit bumpy.
    I feel the way you do by celebrating each birthday to its fullest (carrot cake included). By blowing those candles out, I feel gratitude for another year of life I’ve had to spend with family and friends. We will all age and our bodies will break down in one way or another, but the alternative is worse (in my opinion).
    So, thank you for sharing your joy that bounces off the screen, along with your smiles and beautiful photos. Wishing you a Happy, Happy Birthday! Hugs! 💗🎉🎂

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    1. Hi Lauren, Abby’s comment stayed with me for awhile, quietly percolating. Ergo, a post. You get it, Lauren, how our roads are also bumpy, yet precious memories.

      Another thing we have in common…I am a huge fan of carrot cake and for me, cream cheese icing. Possibly, I feel righteous with a serving of vegetables.🙂

      I greatly appreciate your kind, thoughtful and encouraging words. You help make me feel it is okay to share personal, vulnerable feelings. Thank you for increasing my smile lines today and always. ❤️🌻

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  16. Your posts are always so beautiful, loving, and uplifting. I love the photos and the quotes, and the tribute to wrinkles and all the good things they represent. The Thompson quote is exquisite. Happy Birthday, Erica. Here’s to hundreds of more months of enjoying those wrinkles with the people you love. ❤

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    1. Thank you, Diana, for your lovely, kind and thoughtful words. I sometimes wonder about sharing too much personal information and baring our souls and I greatly appreciate your encouraging comment. Thank you for the birthday wishes and helping increase my smile lines. ❤️

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      1. I think it’s probably an age thing, Erica. Through our hundreds of months, we grow big hearts that relate to these personal stories. So many connections and so much shared experience. It’s warm and wonderful. ❤

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    1. Thank you, Betsy for your super sweet words. I was sorting through some paperwork and revisited this quote. It means a great deal to me also because of the friend that brought it to my attention. Many layers on this one. I know you feel the same as I do about our precious family.❤️ Your children are much younger than mine. It is difficult to believe how you will continue to love them even more with time. (Here I start with the tears again). I feel very lucky. Thank you for my smile lines today and always, Betsy. ❤️

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  17. Such a beautiful post Erica, just like you! Happiest of birthdays to you my dear friend. Your family is gorgeous and are so lucky to have you. Your smile lights up the world. Enjoy all the wrinkles 🙂

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    1. Thank you for your beautiful wishes and encouraging words, Deb. I appreciate how you always make me feel supported. I know you ‘get it’ about family values and counting our blessings. Thank you for the birthday wishes and I wish many more for both of us. Thank you for helping me create more smile lines. xx ❤️

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    1. I greatly appreciate you visiting here, Debbie, when you are going through an exceptionally challenging, emotionally and physically exhausting time. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful words. I count my blessings every day. ❤️

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  18. Hi Erica – just beautiful all the way through … I can see the smiles all gathering their wrinkles – but don’t tell the little ones!! Brilliant post – such fun to read … and here’s to many more … months and months of joy and happiness to come … Wonderful photos … cheers Hilary

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    1. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful, encouraging words, Hilary. You help add some of my smile lines today and always. 🙂Here is to many, many more months of joy and happiness for the both of us.❤️

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  19. Someone says it well, “I’m afraid of getting old but I don’t want to die young.” Beautiful post, Erica. I remember my first wrinkles under my eyes. I rubbed them and tried to smooth them. I’m now thankful for being alive to have wrinkles.
    Don’t we love the honest questions from the kids? They say what comes to their mind and never think of hiding them. They are the joy of our lives.

    You’re right that you wouldn’t trade your wrinkles with smiles come from family and friends, good times and hard times, laughing and crying. All these emotions made our lives so much richer. A smooth face doesn’t have all the experience you have. Your beauty shows in your smiles.

    Thank you for posting the photos of reading Tina Lost in a Crowd with your grandchildren. They’re precious. I downloaded those photos.

    Happy birthday to you and have 100 more, Erica!

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    1. Thank you for your kind, thoughtful supportive words, Miriam. Abby’s question took me off guard and stayed with me. Ergo a blog post. I believe birthdays do help us reflect on our lives and what is truly important.

      You are welcome to the photos of me reading to the girls “Tina Lost in a Crowd.” This was at the end of a long, tiring day, hiking the Kinsol Trestle. Relaxing, cuddling and reading a good book was a great way to top up a perfect day. I know I will read this book to them again. Thank you for the birthday wishes. Back at you, Miriam, for many more. ❤️

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      1. I lost track of my birthday long ago. I just want to keep up with what I’m doing and don’t think of the number.

        Thank you for the photos. I created a folder for the photos with people reading the Tina book to their kids. ❤

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    1. Hi Jacqui, I greatly appreciate you visiting here and sharing your thoughtful words. Interesting how you mentioned the ending quote. It came to me after I had written this post. That goosebump moment when something feels right. I did a google search to see whether I had heard this quote before. I found various sentiments reflecting on life, although not these words. Thank you for adding to my smile lines today.

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  20. Such a beautiful way to help all of us embrace the wonders that our aging brings us. Our five year old granddaughter has always been interested in my assorted moles and age spots. Thank goodness for them and the ability to enjoy these little ones.

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    1. You ‘get it’ about grandchildren, Sue. 💕I learn a great deal from them and tons of fun. Abby’s question about my wrinkles really stayed with me. Thank you for visiting and sharing your kind, thoughtful and wise words.

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    1. Hi Robbie, My life is so full, I don’t even think about or see the wrinkles (usually). I strongly suspect the same will be with you. Your smile and personality leap from the pages when you share your family and your creativity. 🙂 Thank you for your thoughtful words.

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  21. I love childrens ‘no filter’ comments, they are the most precious! And what a beautiful family you have … a great tribute to them and some of your blogger friends 🙂

    I couldn’t agree More, we earn every single one of those wrinkles and should be proud of them! The smiles match 🙂

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    1. Thank you Kate, for your kind, thoughtful words. The children often come up with ‘unfiltered’ comments and sometimes a unique take on life. I don’t usually think about wrinkles, until they are brought to my attention.🙂 I count my blessings on many levels. Thank you for adding to my smile lines, Kate, today and always. 😀

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  22. Erica, I so love this post and feel the warmth and joy pouring out. The pictures speak for themselves.
    So many smiles and laughs. When they come, may most wrinkles be those of a life full of positive and enriching. Experiences.

    Miriam

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    1. You are right on the balance of wrinkles, Miriam. Unfortunately, some appear because of sad events. I am blessed to have many because of a positive and enriching life. We do smile and laugh every day around here. Thank you for sharing your kind, thoughtful words and adding to my smile lines.

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    1. Your comment made me stop and think, Mark. I believe children help put us in the ‘now’ and reinforce what is important. Thank you for your thoughtful words and adding to my smile lines. 🙂

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  23. Out of the mouths of babes comes the unfiltered natural questions and I love the way you answered it. So grateful for the present moment and enjoying those especially close to you. There is so much joy in grandchildren and their infinite and innocent curiosity. It is great to read that you embrace your age and wrinkles – they are our experiences, our journey and only society that makes us reject them and try to stay looking younger and more vital. Vitality is more than skin deep!
    I didn’t know Miriam wrote a book. That is an awesome achievement!

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    1. Hi Amanda, Abby’s question stayed me long after our visit. Ergo this post. I agree with your words about grandchildren, joy and their infinite and innocent curiosity. They are often my best teachers. Miriam’s book is wonderful with many lessons. I greatly appreciate your thoughtful, kind, supportive words today and always, Amanda. Thank you for adding to my smile lines.

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  24. I love everything about this post, Erica…from the grandchild pointing out the wrinkles (been there) to the appreciation of the privilege of aging and accumulating those experiences. I’ll turn 60 this October, and while I’m not thrilled about everything that aging does to the body, I wouldn’t trade the experiences and relationships of those six decades for my 20-year-old body. My grandma used to say, “Growing old is hell, but it sure beats the alternative.” We’d laugh with her…but the truth is I recognize and appreciate the privilege of living this long and all that brings. Thanks for the reminder, Erica.

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    1. Thank you Christie for your kind and thoughtful words. You know first hand how our grandchildren are precious and wise. You look wonderful for almost 60. I am borrowing a commenter’s word – ‘vitality.’ I believe we are too busy enjoying our lives to even notice the wrinkles (almost) And, yes, privilege of living this long.❤️

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    1. Thank you for your supportive, kind and thoughtful words, Liesbet. I know you are far younger than me. I think you ‘get it’ how we are too busy enjoying and living life to think about wrinkles (unless they are pointed out by a 5-year-old😀). You are extra busy right now with your travels and the release of your book. Thank you for my birthday wishes and adding to my smile lines. ❤️

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  25. happy birthday to you! And I do remember your January post and enjoyed that one – which fit so well with this post (and you know – it seems like the months have flown by since January)

    cheers to aging and embracing wrinkles – and for the record – you have aged very softly – which I guess I would define as having joy and it shows in each photo –

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    1. Thank you for your kind words and birthday wishes, Yvette. I do not usually think about wrinkles until a precious, unfiltered 5-year-old reminds me about them.😀 Birthdays seem to be a time of reflection and awareness of the passing of time. Like you say, the months have flown by. We all have our ups and downs, yet I am grateful for the joy in my life. Thank you for adding to my smile lines today and always!❤️

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  26. PS
    I am reading an old book right now (the second edition was 1990 and I actually am going to give it to scene who just retried) and the author Mel addresses agism and your post reminded me of it (I did not intend on reading the book but it is insightful)
    and speaking of books – one more note – before you buy Lady by the River – I wanted to let you know I am making an audio version of it for the five year anniversary in November and so if you want to wait for that you might enjoy it 🙂

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    1. The concept of ageism is interesting, Yvette. Unfortunately, it does appear. I look at it as more lessons I need to learn. Some people do generalize age capabilities. Also, my husband and I are fortunate we are healthy and mobile (today) 🙂

      How exciting and courageous about the audio version of the book! Likely, significant effort. I will get both versions. I will dm (or is it ‘pm’) – ( I don’t know the cool way of sayings) 🙂

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        1. I have seen it mean “direct message” or “personal message” – to keep some information private – such as a personal email or Messenger – just as easy for me to type in “personal message” 🙂

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      1. and erica – this book that has the agism chat – I am actually sending it to Renee ( a sweet blogging friend) but so glad I dipped into it first because I love the author’s views and voice.
        I will send you the link because they have a few old copies for sale on line and maybe you can keep it mind – I know your list is long as it is – but even if this is a 2023 read it might be worth your time

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      2. The book is by Mel London and check out this title:
        “Second Spring: You Can Make the Middle Years the Best Years of Your Life, and Don’t Believe Anyone Who Tells You Different!”

        I have the 1990 updated edition – which still has some timeless thoughts and ideas (I ma not sure what the 1985 edition has – but tis book reminded me that some people really do write great books when their years of seasoning are poured into it – and so when are you writing one of your books Erica?)

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  27. Love it! Yes, our wrinkles are hard earned from years and days and moments of smiling ear to ear and enjoying life. Aging gracefully and accepting and even embracing that we have the priviledge to grow older is key to getting older. Love the photos of you with family and your precious grandchildren. Priceless.

    Peta

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    1. Thank you for your lovely words, Peta. You ‘get it’ on embracing and accepting growing older. I also suspect you are too busy enjoying life to dwell on the inevitable lines and changes showing on our bodies. I am grateful for this moment, especially family and friends. I hope you, Ben and loved ones are well and you are enjoying Summer in our hemisphere. ❤️

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  28. I absolutely love your response to Abby’s question. That’s amazing, loving and owning your wrinkles as a part of you – they tell a story of how far you have come. There’s so much more to stressing over wrinkles. Like you, I am lucky to have what I have at the moment. I don’t celebrate my birthdays like I did when I was younger (e.g. with a party). For my birthdays these days it’s more about spending time with the people who matter to me and in other words, low-key birthdays with those who matter.

    Happy Birthday, Erica. May this year be a good year for you and filled with lots of love and joy.

    Also, I like your photos here – every one of them speaks of joy 💕

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    1. I don’t think about wrinkles much until Abby pointed them out to me. I agree with low-key birthdays and spending time with those that matter to us. My children constantly hear how ‘time together’ is the best gift. Thank you, Mabel, for pointing out the “joy.” I had not thought about this and I checked the photos again after your comment. 🙂

      An interesting coincidence how your last post was about birthday gifts. It is as if we were on the same wavelength. Thank you for adding to my smile lines. ❤️

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      1. I think when we’re younger we aren’t that conscious about time and how valuable it is. It’s always important to enjoy the moment.

        It really does seem like we on the same wavelength with birthday posts around the same time 🙂 Many more happy days for you, Erica ❤️

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